poor friend

[Connemmara]

One of my very good friends is coming through a very hard time of poverty. She is having to sell her house to give half to ex-husband but this has been going on for 2 years and the property wont sell. Meantime I listen every single time to her tales of woe of having no money etc etc.

I do try to help out with buying ciggies (if she had not got them she would pull her hair out) anyway my problem is whilst I am comfortable off I feel guilty about her and sometimes I cant shake the guilt away feeling she does not have a way out. There is more to this story re her daughter too - lives with her - who is working all the hours God sends her but having to pay for a loan when she went to college and now a car because her job is so far away - she is getting it hard too. Sometimes I cannot believe it. My heart goes out to her and daughter. She will have money when the house is sold but when will that be.

[joggerjayne]

Yes x

[craft1948]

I do think one of them may disappear...:-)

[mrmoonshine]

lol mcmouse, the pork thread is where its at!

Craft why have you and your pals been busy reporting because not everyone agrees with you and your friends's opinions?

[jackthehat]

^Your own actions cause your regular banning as well you know.

Still, you've got enough names to see you throughout the day..................

[ummmm]

Who is it?

[mrmoonshine]

Im still not with you jack, "hey does any of you know what the hell jacks harping on about?"

[craft1948]

sorry moonshine you've lost me.......I haven't reported anyone for at least .......2 days.

[jackthehat]

Our usual weekend guest.............

[mrmoonshine]

You people are quite mad!
Are you maybe mistaking me for someone else?

[jackthehat]

No, mrmoonshine, I'm not.............

[craft1948]

well you've just accused me of reporting you......why?

[mrmoonshine]

Craft you really need to be able to tell the difference between an accusation and a question.

"YOU REPORTED ME!''- This would be an accusation.

Craft why have you and your pals been busy reporting because not everyone agrees with you and your friends's opinions? - This would be a question.

Jack you seem to after some sort of drama or trouble, bored or drunk are we?

[jackthehat]

Neither.

It's just that I happen to have your number (metaphorically speaking, of course)...........

............all of them :o)

[craft1948]

moonshine........sad.

[mrmoonshine]

Look ladies im flattered at the attention, but jackie my dear, im not your type and craft sweetheart im a little young.

Jack feel free to "Phone" me anytime you wish......metaphorically speaking that is...

[karenmac60]

Listen, if I hold your coats, will you just take this outside and get it done with? None of this has anything to do with poor Connemmara's question, and you lot have hijacked yet another thread with your bickering.

[mrmoonshine]

Craft...............sad

Moonsgine.........estatic and over the moon in delicious excitement at being chased by people of your calibre.

[mrmoonshine]

Karens right.....lets go girls....

[lil123]

A few years ago I was at rock bottom to. Had to flee my ex husband and leave my house everything.
To cut a very long story short, I made a plan what I was going to do and kept seeing myself and my son living comfortable again.
I had to sell my car to keep paying the mortgage until my house was sold and had to go on benefits until I got another job.
I took any job just to keep going and now I have a great job again that is well paid, a car and i love my life again.
I think the key is to keep looking forward and doing what ever can be done to change the situation.
I had no help off anyone so your friend is very lucky to have you to help but she needs to help herself too x

[lotsafun]

i couldnt agree more with lil123. I myself was at a really low point a few yewars ago, my marriage fell apart due to domestic violence, i had to leave my home and everything behind. I had no job, no money and no where to live for me and my little boy. And everything has changed for me now and im in areally good place, but it wasnt easy. The danger i find is that your friend may feel stuck ina rut at the momennt her she hasd really low self esteem. You dont say if she is working? If not perhaps suggest she finds a little job or something, i got a job behind a bar and a cleaning job ansd it done wonders for my self esteem and got me back to where i belonged.