You need to check the terms of the Mem and Arts.
I am a director of such a company. Our M&A states that a director must be a shareholder and that the office of director must be vacated if the director ceases to be a member of the company.
It then says elsewhere in the document that a member of the company must be a tenant of the premises, and where there are two or more tenants then they shall be deemed to constitute one member.
However it then goes on to say that in such cases then the person whose name first appearsin the register of members shall exercise the voting and the other pwers attached to the share.
If your M&A is similar then you may be ineligible.
However, our M&A also has a clause which allows a director to appoint an alternate director at any meeting at which the director is not able to be present, subject to the agreement of the co-directors. This position has full powers, so if yours has such a clause, your spouse could appoint you as the alternate, I suppose.
I do realise that your M&A may be different, but it may shed a bit of light on what to look for in it and hopefully help.
Good luck!
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