Ok so my ex-girlfriend (lets call her kate) and i have just broke up. We were only going out for not long but we had been 'together' for months. Anyway back at christmas, we were sort of together. Her best friend is a guy and they used to date (lets call him dave). But they never had sex or anything. He had just before halloween but she still was and so was I.
Anyway, we had planned to do it that night because i as having a party and she sed she loved me and all tht. Anyway, we were going to but she stopped because she knew dave didnt like it. He thought i was using her. Then later that night, all my firends were sleeping over and her and dave had sex.
So i obviously was heartbroken and she sed 'i was drunk', 'i didnt know what i was doing', 'i thought he'd fall out with me if we didn't'.
So this issue was always there but i thought i could get past it. We had sex like a few days after. she says she couldn't remebr her time with him. We started going out but i couldn't trust her because she told me that was the only time. He told me that was the only time but he had told other people who i trust completly, that it was 'a few times'.
So 1) i cant get over what she did with dave (who has a boyfriend now)
and 2) i don't belive its only once.
So i ended it but she couldnt face it and ended up handcuffed by the police because she wouldnt let me go. She carved my initals onto her arm. I love her and i miss her soo much. we see eachother everyday and its soo hard. i still want to be with her but i know its wrong. my friens hae sed i shouldn't but i cant stop thinking about her and talking to her. and she wants me back.
Its been less than a week since the police thing. what should i do???? i really need some advice.
Oh i forgot to say...
I found out that they almost did it on halloween night. He stopped before they did it.
AND last year she kissed my best friend and i said i didnt like that and she said it was a mistake and she didn't know what she was doing. But on saturday i found out it carried on for 2/3 weeks.
She says she regrets her time with dave and the kissing with my best friend.
She is still best friends with dave. they are going away to germany togtehr to see a friend in april for 1 week.
and then away wioth is family to florida for 2 weeks in the summer.
I cannot stand to see her with anyone else though!!! I miss her
Chalk it down to experience and get on with your life. You're obviously very young and you will experience many emotions within relationships before you eventually settle down with 'the one.'
No offence meant but, You all sound too immature to be contemplating anything binding at the moment. I think you'll make your own mind up (as indeed it should be) but would advise not forming a relationship with someone you don't feel you can trust; regardless whether the excuse that she was drunk holds any weight. She clearly wasn't too drunk to perform, and so wasn't too drunk to be aware of how she felt about you. I'd recommend keeping away from each other until the emotions have calmed down and you can consider your next 'move' properly.
Kate's a psycho, run for the hills. She's that insane she even turned Dave gay!!!!!
As for the fact she's lied about how many times, kissed your mate, etc. Dude she is dirty. She's probably had your brother and dad as well. Ditch her and get yourself checked out down the STI clinic.