sex drive

[smellie]

Im 22 years old and ive totally lost my sex drive.Surely i should be at my peak. Any ideas on what to do to get it back? I ve got a boyfriend feeling sorry for him self. thanks xxx

[Toffee]

andy, don't be tempted!

[Greedyfly]

Poor you - I suppose it is all about getting the 'magic' back. Go out buy YOURSELF some nice lingerie , maybe a bottle of champers/wine and some nice fruits and food. Have a nice meal, listen to some nice music, eat your nice food and show off your new undies. I think it is a habit sort of thing - I had the same problem about a year ago, I got so used to 'it' not happening that I wasn't bothered about it at all. Talk to your fella, tell him how you feel and get him to help you along. Maybe a few nights of cuddles and kisses (no sex), then lots of foreplay but again no sex and keep exploring each other and making each other feel good then when you are ready again go for it. Have fun.

[smudge]

Have you had a lot on your mind then, i.e., studying, feeling down, depressed or worrying, etc., as all these things can add to loss of sex drive. Don't worry too much, if your boyfriend truly loves you, he will understand & it will come back in time. We've all been there from time to time, 'specially us ladies.

[becks]

Both my sister and i suffered with this, mine lasted for about six months, and i never really did find out why. My sister reckons hers was caused by changing her pill so if this applies to you it might be worth checking out. Also i think mine had a lot to do with the fact that i had put on a bit of weight, i didn't feel sexy and therefore didn't think my boyfriend still saw me as sexy. i would look at other mental factors like smudge says, stress, depression, anxiety etc can all play a part. I really hope you resolve this as it is horrible, maybe worth a trip to the docs? Take care and hope you sort it out x

[spiff]

Hi hellie. the thing i want to say is..."so what?!" You will want to occur sexually with him when you want to. And if you don't.....don't! In my opinion, it's not a question of "getting it back",it might just be a time where you have both to re-evaluate why you're together. hope it helps,if not....sorry!! Spiff xxxxx

[norrad]

look at your diet sometimes laking in a vital food can cause lack of sex drive i.e. zinc defisancy. also speaking with a councilor might help. their are thousands of reasons one might be your boyfriends desire for sex making sex seem like a chore.

[gemagination]

hi hellie, i had this problem aswell a couple of years ago, and i do think that it is all part of getting a little bit comfortable with each other, habit etc. also it's just also a case of knowing you can have it whenever so it doesn't really seem to be that exciting. i reckon best plan is to have a sex ban in the bedroom, that way you are really chilled out when you go to bed not worrying your going to upset or give the brush off to your dude again. then get kinky anywhere else you like, then there's excitement, the element of breaking the rules, being involved in something together, ie where can we have sex without or with people seeing us!!! hope this helps babe, x

[charlottemis]

haha,women dont reach a sexual peak until we are in our thirties! so try not to beat yourself up too much.At 22,you are still very much just learning what you like and dont like.(trust me,you may think you know,but in a few years you will realize you know nothing now) try what the first person said about making yourself feel sexy...the lingerie,and some wine...and even perhaps some visual stimulation(i.e. sexual type movies) they do help women too,just pick a tasteful one.If all else fails,dont worry,we all go through slumps.try to get more sleep and eat better,and you should be back to yourself in no time.