why cant we get pregnant

[shellie]

me and my fiance have been trying to have a baby for over two years and weve been the doctors and weve been tested and been told theres nothing obvious wrong and its starting to get us down especially as our friends have got partners and have had babies so easy after not trying has anybody been through this and possibly have some advise as we are only 23 and and 25 but weve always wanted a young family

[poodicat]

Would be nice to hear from her

[4getmenot]

maybe she's trying lol

[ummmm]

Absolutely 4get.....also do not want to upset her with negative views.

[ladyalex]

If you've been trying for 2 years, go back to the docs and ask them to look again. There may be something wrong that's not 'obvious' but still fixable.

Agree with the other advice about relaxing/chilling etc, but it's not easy to do when all you want is a family , it's not happening and everyone else not only seems to have a baby but didn't particularly plan them.

All the best to you.

[boxtops]

Let's not forget that shellie has asked a question about diifculties with getting pregnant, not what do other ABers think about her plans. Each to their own, it's their lives. Shellie you are both still young, enjoy what you have in your loving relationship, babies will come in due course if they are meant to. ♥

[4getmenot]

there is that. you are young. I'm 31 and still not there yet

[ummmm]

Make plans....arrange a great holiday....sods law usually sticks it head in then. You'll find you're pregnant the day before you leave.......

That's how it works....

[redcrx]

well my other half and his mrs were in same boat as you, tried for years and years.

they split and i met him. 6 weeks after meeting i fell pregnant. Probably because we werent trying lol

3am sleepy sex, no rushing to get out of bed, go for a wee etc. just falling asleep probably helped as nothin was fighting gravity.

same with 2nd baby, got caught out yet again.

sorry, poodi, i didnt have time to get married within 6 weeks lol

[bednobs]

hi, you say there is nothing obviously wrong, but if you have been trying for over two years and still nothing, it might be time for more detailed investigations a a fertility clinic, if thats the way you want to go. you might need your tubes unblocked, or medication to help.
As an aside you might also want to start saving up for private treatment because if it's anything like where i live, if you needed, say, IVF, you cant get it on the NHS till you are 30.
I also agree with the others about relaxing. After 9 years of trying, i finally came round to the idea i'd never be a mum and lo and behold i am now about 9 weeks pregnant

[petal54]

why try so hard,relax,less is sometimes best.we weren't trying,& whammo!

[tigwig]

I can only agree with the others who say to relax and stop trying so hard. I was desperate for a 2nd last year then hubby lost his job and we had to stop trying. I resigned myself to the fact that we would never be able to have another and avoided the fertile time completely. Or so I thought, after a few months I found out I was pregnant which was horrendous timing and a very big shock, this time last year in fact! I had a christmas baby and think he was meant to be.