children trouble

[willow27]

i have twins of 10 and a 5 year old and i am having trouble with them and i dont know what to do, ive been to parenting courses and yet still nothing, the twinsare being so rude to me and there dad and nan,  they lash out and generally hurt us by calling us names, they are screaming which is making the neighbours think we are beating them up and have ad them approach me a couple of times, my 5 year old is slighlty specail needs regarding her speech and she is very hypo and alot to handle, she is constantly running outside and because she dosent understand fully i dont want to upset her by shouting at her, but i am at the end of my tether so if anyone knows anywhere that can help i would be most gratefull thanks

[woofgang]

In the uk there is a service called child and family guidance that you can get to through your doctor. A friend of mine used this srvice and it helped loads, I hope it helps you.

[willow27]

thanks for your help

[rosandjohn]

Have you had the children (all of them) assessed by your local CAMHS (via your GP). If your children have a undiagnosed condition the approaches from the parenting classes might not work. It is possible and best to investigate for all concerned. PS shouting at anyone doesn't address the problem. Try hard to praise the good and ignore the bad (as long as no one is in any physical danger). You cannot praise kids enough - look for them doing anything good/correctly and praise them. ttfn

[Suzannew]

Willow, I know what you are going through, I have twin daughters.  Do you know about TAMBA?  Here is a link to their site.  They have a helpline too.  Click on Specialist Support on the menu.  They will let you know if they is a local club running in your area.  It will be helpful to chat with other mums who are going through the same thing and have other children to look after.  Good luck.  My girls are 14 now and everything is fine now.  www.tamba.org.uk