What's the best way to protect women against the violent urges of some men?

[sp1814]

I read recently that one of the few areas where crime figures are on the rise is in the area of domestic violence.

Serious question - has any of the male AB'ers ever raised their fists to a woman, and if so, why?

Is this an unspoken epidemic?

Do any of the female AB'ers know of situations of domestic violence, and how did they or their loved ones deal with it?

[bobjugs12]

Mr Smith is also a good mate of mine in the RAF

[ludwig]

In answer to the question, the best way to protect innocent people against violent people, irrespective of the sex or relationship of the people concerned, is to punish the violent people severely, and lock them away for long periods of time whenever possible.

It's not perfect, but it seems to be the best method we've managed to come up with.

[youngmafbog]

Ludwig

Agree. But we dont do it.

[sp1814]

bobjugs12

I HAVE had experience (see my post from 14:38).

"Let me ask you something, have you ever slapped your boyfriend?"

Absolutely not. In 11 years it hasn't even crossed my mind. You may as well ask be whether I'd skinned a pet alive. It's just something outside my area of consciousness.

The moment your loved one raises your hand to you, the relationship (in my opinion) is dead in the water.

[AB Editor]

I found this interesting, if sadly predictable:

Surge in domestic abuse cases coincides with England's World Cup exit

http://www.guardian.c...rge-england-world-cup

"On 27 June, when England were defeated 4-1 by Germany, Greater Manchester police logged 353 incidents of domestic violence.

A spokesman for the force said the figure was the second highest recorded so far this year — and 15.7% higher than the same day last year."

Spare Ed

[bobjugs12]

"(14:38 on Tue 27/Jul/10)
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I've seen it myself, but not been a victim of it per se."

Well I have, and it ain't much fun!!

[cazzz1975]

it cuts both ways sp, granted lesser cases but still cases, my friend used to suffer physical and mental abuse from his druggie wife, he used to keep it together for that sake of the kids, she eventually left and he is bringing up the kids alone but it has wrecked his and the kids lives, he does not trust women at all.

[cazzz1975]

I think that too eddie, a lot of blokes would not admit to being attacked by their wives, I think given the way a lot of women have changed over the years it wouldnt surprised me if there was a significant increase in female on male domestic violence.

[thetruthhurts]

I raise my hand everyday to my partner. She won't let me leave the room otherwise.

[modeller]

It was on the radio yesterday that women suffer 38 beatings before they report it and almost invariably will take back a violent partner and even when the police are involved they rarely want to pursue it further.

[rowanwitch]

I had a vile temper when i was young and a very strong but gentle husband.... I threw plates, pans and knives at him and once stuck a dinner fork in his thigh...the most he ever did in response was pick me up kicking and screaming and dump me in the bedroom until I calmed down....I learned self control I had to....
But the worse beating I ever took was from another woman....its all across the spectrum I'm afraid..and the sad thing is the number of times people are forgiven just to do it over again....I could not be violent now...it frightens me too much

[keyplus90]

I believe that a man who raises his hand to his wife shows his own weakness. However I also believe that alcohol is usually (if not always) main reason behind domestic violence.