why cant I walk away?

[notnotnot]

Ive been having a lot of problems with the man and recently we had a holiday booked to Gran Canaria for two weeks and a week before we were due to fly he we broke up and he ignored me so I wasnt sure what was happening with the holiday. Even though I text him etc I had to text his dad to ask what was going on with the holiday. 4 days before the holiday he told me I wasnt going and he was going alone, without me. As I really wanted the holiday I kept asking him if I could go as its what I needed before uni starts up. He was calling all the shots and told me the last day before the holiday I could go, but just as pals, and we'd maybe talk about us if the holiday went well.

So we go as friends. I accept. And as soon as we get over to the hotel after an hour there he kisses me and tells me we will work through our problems and he loves me etc etc. The two weeks were fine. he then comes home and texts me saying he needs to think and he will let me know what he wants. :(

guys, this guy messes me about soo much and I really need to let go. Im going into third year uni and I cannot let him mess me up since this is an important year. He knows when we break up I get very sad and cry a lot, often feel sick and cant eat. I feel lost without him and I cant bear to not have my life with him. He has me where he wants me. Problem is I dont know what to do about all of this. Surely if he really loved me he wouldnt be feeling this way and thinking about if he wants me in his life or not. x

[JackDanielsU]

Fraid its not looking as if this guy is "the one" - however much it hurts Id break off all contact.
Go treat yourself to something, and try to forget about this bloke, concentrate on your studies, but also try and keep a social life - going out with girlfriends etc - you never know you could meet a decent bloke that way

[karenmac60]

You don't mention actually being in love with him. It sounds more like you are dependent on him and don't want to be alone. Cut off contact and concentrate on yourself and your studies. There may come a time after a long break, where you end up back together - if not then he wasn't 'the one'.

[ummmm]

You can walk away. It's easier than you think....

But if you want to be unhappy..don't walk away.

[welshlibranr]

I am so sorry but I think he's using you! you should think about letting go! Concentrate on your last yer in uni! Let him do the running if he wants you, if he doesn't, then he's not the one for you..............take care of yourself!..........

[looby1914]

hun he does sound like he is using you tbh... massive hugs I know it isnt easy walking away from a relationship but this doesnt sound good at all and isnt going to do you anything but harm x

[Brinjal]

Creep alert. Run as fast as you can. He will only ever give you grief. Dont let him continue to use you.

[happyone2]

i dont think that he wanted you in his life, he just took the chance to have sex as you had "insisted" on going on holiday............and as i read it , you basically " begged" to be allowed to go................and i think you probably hoped that you would have sex, and that you would be able to get him to want you back.

well, you got what you wanted, on holiday that is , but i really do think if you hadnt had the holiday none of this would have happened..................


it is easy to say give it up, but if you can you will save yourself an awful lot of angst, cos it wont last however much you hope it will, but it wont.............. therefore give it up and move on, be strong, cos being weak will just cause you pain.................... more pain and it will mess you up in this important year.

dont let it mess you up, only you can stop it doing so, you can not expect him to not mess you up.

good luck