ex's mate

[lee_lee]

I split up with my babys dad 2 monts ahgo.  We mutually decided it was for the best because i had taken him back on numerous occasions and it wasnt working.  His best mate really likes me and I like him to.  We have met up a few times lately and we want to start a relationship.  Do you think this will work or will it cause problems for my ex and his mate?

[Lisax]

personally i'd say dont get involved.

i dont agree with dating friends ex's.... it just makes things complicated for everyone around... mutual friends etc

[Slinkye]

I believe you already know the answer to this question, otherwise you would not hesitate in entering the relationship with your ex's mate.

If you decide to go ahead anyway, think of the consequences and how you will both will deal with them.

Why not take time out and be on your own for a while so that you can enter a new relationship for all the right reasons?

[kazzee69]

Well considering you have mutually agreed to break up and you both can realise its not working, sounds like he can be grown up about it. It's not like you broke his heart and are nowmoving on to his mate. It isn't really any of his business but what about if you and his mate sit down with him and explain that you both have feelings for each other and you want to start a relationship but wanted to tell him first so he didn't hear it from anyone else. He might be happy for you. Make sure you don't sound like you are asking for his permission though. Good luck.

[kazzee69]

I have just read the other replies... I don't think you should feel guilty about being with his friend. You and your bf split up, and it was mutual. It will only make things complicated for others if you make a big deal out of it. If your ex is ok with the situation then what has it got to do with anyone else? Sod them!

[philandlil]

Think about if it was your mate your ex wanted to start dating, would you be happy with it. If yes as Kazzee69 says speak to your ex about it first.