do men with partners watch porn or do i need to worry

[babsthebunny]

i have been on my partners laptop and well i seem to find is port and weather sites and of coruse facebook but i am not bothered about most of then but the porn sites. we dont do it that often cos he is tired after work and i am at work late some night but should i let it go and let him watch porn or how do i let him know it is not right i have in the passed and he just flips not in a violant way but not happy when i ask him if he wanks when i am not about he just wont tell me what is wrong with him or is it me should i not know that kind of think we have been together now 5 years and we live together


please help me

[ummmm]

It is your problem. Sorry.

Sex takes effort...sometimes people just can't be bothered. Porn fills the gap.

If it makes you feel any better my OH watches porn. If he was given the option at the very moment he felt horny he'd chose 'real' sex. Chances are...I'm asleep and he knows that waking me could be painful for him....so porn it is.

[lindylou16]

Internet porn is so unrealistic.

Marge Simpson would never sh*g Principal Skinner or Ned Flanders in real life.

[ummmm]

And from what BOO says. It's your attitude making him lie. If I asked OH if he'd been watching porn he'd say yes...be careful when you pick up that sock..!

[babsthebunny]

fair anuff i will let it go i am just going to have to chill out and not give a Sugar about things as much thanks all

[Davethedog]

Lindy Lou Marge likes Ned didn't you watch the one where they did "A Street car named desire"?

[Jemisa]

Milly, - I think men get more into porn as they get older, I can vouch for that with my own H. He cannot use the computer but he watches it on 'Sky' he's got a TV in his den and watches it in there.
I don't care, its not bothering me & if it keeps mim happy, so be it.

jem

[babsthebunny]

jem thanks i guess if he is happy with what he is doing then so be it let it go and just injoy what we do have and do together

[joeluke]

Someone should teach your partner those very important 3 little words



Delete browsing history

[ClaireBare]

Why can't you use a capital 'I'. That irks.

[Barmaid]

None of my business babs, I know, but what objections do you have to him watching porn? In what way do you think it is not right?

[ummmm]

Joe.....we can browse incognito now :-)

[Dris]

I'm guilty often of not using a capital 'I' ClaireBare but do you not think that was a wee but cheeky just posting to say that?Hi BTW if youre the same one I know of :) See youve just joined and already the grammar is irksome -get used to it -often goes with the territory doesnt mean we are illiterate though lol !!

babs -my OH looks at porn -funnily enough once youve said you dont mind it takes half the fun away.I look at it as well.I'd just advise as the others have to just view it as normal behaviour and dont try to catch him out -I hate when someone does that to me -feel sheepish and silly and defensive.

[jaydah]

Ask him how much money the porn girls earn and say you could do with some of that....that will scare the sh1t out of him.

[TTG]

My parents and both brothers and wives watch porn. Not at the same time...as couples!

[snags]

^ lol... do you swap tapes around the table after Sunday lunch?

[joko]

Oh dear, tsk tsk, ClaireBare...if you must correct people..then at least get it right yourself...a question mark should always follow a quesion...should it not?

That irks.

[andy-hughes]

The first thing you need to understand about male masturbation habbits is that pornography is not an 'instead of', it's an 'as well as.

Although you may feel rejected because your personal sexual activity is low, it doesn't mean he prefers masturbation to sex with you - it's simpy that it's easy, quick, and takes no thought on his part, which makes it attractive to almost all men.

If you really feel he is prefering that to sex with you, then you need to discuss it, but go carefully.

All men grow up with the notion that masturbation is a 'guilty pleasure', so it is something he won't want to discuss specifically, so don't ask for details.

Approach this from another angle - try instigating some sex yourself, and don't be shy!

You may find that taking control is something you both enjoy, so take a deep breath and see what happens - be prepared to be patient though, he may have just got out of the habit, and alpsed into simple self-satisfaction because it's easier.

You may not stop him enjoying pornography, but if you are secure in your own sex life with him, you can see it for what it is - a simple 'add-on' when he feels the need.

Good luck.

[virmos]

all men do that when women are out! Nothing to worry about. Spend more time together.