please help

[notsurewhat]

I've just came out a terrible relationship. Words cannot describe my pain. It really hurts. Badly. I am trying so hard to be positive and its hard. I have exams soon and I'm soo messed up I cannot concentrate. This guy isnt worth the space I'm writing on, and I wish not to go into details on how much he hurt me. Put me down all the time, lied, betrayed and shaped me into this unconfident loser that I now am. While I'm up studying, he's out pulling. Why am I feeling so upset? So down? My dad was in a car crash and my gran just broke her leg in the snow days ago, my exams are so close and I just came down with a sickness bug. I'm going to fail what Ive worked so hard for but I just cannot study. I just cant concantrate, or sleep, or eat or really have anyone here to turn to.I'm never dating again because I cant stand this hurting and pain. Feels good letting it all out, having a good cry as I do so. But this is not what I need help with.

How do I get confident like I used to be? I want to happy. I want people to like me. Because I am a nice person. Should I get councilling? do anti depressants work?
Ive saved up a bit of money as I never go out and party so any suggestions on what good things I can buy to feel good. Products that will make my hair shiney or good moisturisers, tan etc etc.... Im really so alone right now.

[boxtops]

notsure, did you see all the answers on your earlier post? http://www.theanswerb...l/Question964644.html

You're going through a really bad patch with a lot of pressures due to your exams - get that big hurdle over and done with, then you can start to look at your life. Put all the rest away for now and think about aiming to pass.
Your ex-bloke sounds charming so you are better off without him demeaning you all the time, it can be so destructive to your self-confidence - but it's rubbish and you do know that, only himself bigging himself up by putting you down. You ARE worth more than that - but it might take a little while to convince yourself, and you can always come on here for a chat. You're not well at the moment so put some of your bad feelings down to that - and have a bit of self faith, you can pass your exams, I really hope you do. I hope this helps even a little bit.

[Whoever]

Stop now and take a deep breath. You do not need moisturisers and products to make your hair shining or to make your skin look good., You need to go to bed early for several nights, relax, and understand that in a few weeks time, everything will have a totally different perspective. Try to relax.
A useless guy who you admit is a waste of space has just walked out of your life. OK, so it hurts. But he has done you a very big favour because it's only a few weeks of your life which have been spoiled. You're not engaged or married to him. You don't have a child with him. Presumably you don't have joint debts with him. So you have had a very luck escape. When you look back on this relationship from a distance, you will realise that he wasn't worth the anxiety and sadness you are putting yourself though.
Your father wasn't killed in his car crash so you still have your dad. Your grandmother's leg will hopefully heal soon, and your sickness bug, unpleasant though it is, will soon pass. Look at it dispationately and you will realise you still have good things happening in your life to help keep your grounded. Remind yourself of them on a daily basis, It may help to put your sadness into some kind of perspective.