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Want to stop a person setting foot on my property how ?
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My sister and myself own a house which our father lives in. He has a "girlfriend" who sold her house to move in with her parents only to have a row with her mother (who is going a little insane) and be thrown out by the police. My father very stupidly allowed her to go and live with him. Although they are in a relationship living together is out of the question and as predicted they have done nothing but argue and the final straw came when my sister went over last night and she basically wouldn't let him talk to her. My sister arrived at my house on the verge of an asma (sorry can't spell that one right) attack and if it weren't for the fact that I have an electronic medical device in the house that can help deal with such matters instead of calling my father 10 minutes later to tell him to get some damn back bone I'd have been dialing 999 and getting my sister to hospital.
The woman is supposed to be moving into a place tomorrow (whether that materializes or not is another matter). She has so far despite given £6'000 away to her daughters and spent £1'000 on a new hearing aid she didn't really need as her NHS one was fine has point blank refused to pay for her keep but has been treating our house like her own, (bossing my sister around).
I want this person out and never to return as enough is enough. If my dad really wants to see her he can go and see her. I do not want her on the property again once she leaves and if her new place mysteriously falls through I still want her OUT !
Is there something my sister and myself can get like a restraining order to stop her coming to the property again ?
The woman is supposed to be moving into a place tomorrow (whether that materializes or not is another matter). She has so far despite given £6'000 away to her daughters and spent £1'000 on a new hearing aid she didn't really need as her NHS one was fine has point blank refused to pay for her keep but has been treating our house like her own, (bossing my sister around).
I want this person out and never to return as enough is enough. If my dad really wants to see her he can go and see her. I do not want her on the property again once she leaves and if her new place mysteriously falls through I still want her OUT !
Is there something my sister and myself can get like a restraining order to stop her coming to the property again ?
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I must say I find a lot of the judgemental comments on here disturbing. As you say, people cannot know the full circumstances & should realise that.
If she goes, make sure you change the locks - even if your father has not given her a key there is a possibility that she took one & got it copied.
If she doesn't go, I doubt whether the police would be much help - this is really a civil matter not a criminal one unless your father has valid grounds for an allegation of some criminal offence. You could ring the Shelter helpline (see their website) or go to your local CAB to try & find out what can be done. However, I suspect that what has already been said is likely to be the case - only your father can tell her to go (I mean that in the legal sense - obviously you can do so & have done but she can ignore you with impunity unless your father tells her to go). This may be different if you had a tenancy agreement with your father & it contained a condition that no-one else was to live in the house without your permission.
If nothing was done & she remained long term it is quite conceivable that she would try (e.g. when your father died) to claim some right to the house. She would probably not succeed but it could cause endless problems & legal costs to overcome & get her out at that stage.
If she goes, make sure you change the locks - even if your father has not given her a key there is a possibility that she took one & got it copied.
If she doesn't go, I doubt whether the police would be much help - this is really a civil matter not a criminal one unless your father has valid grounds for an allegation of some criminal offence. You could ring the Shelter helpline (see their website) or go to your local CAB to try & find out what can be done. However, I suspect that what has already been said is likely to be the case - only your father can tell her to go (I mean that in the legal sense - obviously you can do so & have done but she can ignore you with impunity unless your father tells her to go). This may be different if you had a tenancy agreement with your father & it contained a condition that no-one else was to live in the house without your permission.
If nothing was done & she remained long term it is quite conceivable that she would try (e.g. when your father died) to claim some right to the house. She would probably not succeed but it could cause endless problems & legal costs to overcome & get her out at that stage.
I doubt she has a key, he'd have made sure of that and let me know if she did. The one thing her being there means is that he never leaves the house.
One small thing on my side is that she is ignorant of the law. Unfortunately as you say without my dad's cooperation a lasting solution won't be found. If he really won't go through with it that's up to him, I give up, I've spent the last 10 years trying to help him out of trouble, if he wants to go finding more so be it.
One small thing on my side is that she is ignorant of the law. Unfortunately as you say without my dad's cooperation a lasting solution won't be found. If he really won't go through with it that's up to him, I give up, I've spent the last 10 years trying to help him out of trouble, if he wants to go finding more so be it.
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