grand parents

[emhal]

hi my liittle girl is only 6 weeks old and babies nan (on her dads side) was drunk and really angry and shouted at me she didnt want anything to do with my baby and that shes not her nanny. I told her fine n where to go but shes now saying that she didnt mean it and wants something to do with the baby but i dont know if i should all my family say the baby is better of without her. I dont know what to do for the best?

[shock]

What does the babies dad say?

[daffy654]

Why was she angry at you?

[anneasquith]

dont make any rash decisions. think about it for a few days.

[Mamyalynne]

If this is out of character and a one off, think long and hard before cutting her out of babies life.

[marval]

I don't think you want to cut her totally out of your daughter's life. I would however say that she is not allowed near her if she is drunk.

[daffy654]

Was it anything to do with this?
http://www.theanswerb.../Question1018419.html

[daffy654]

Lol triggs. Both posts appeared in the recent posts box at the same time.

[emhal]

the babys dad has just said it she feels horrible for saying it. She is angry with me because ive fallen out with her daughter. Yeah people do say things when they are angry but because she doesnt like me the baby hasnt done anything wrong

[emhal]

yeah daffy654 it has

[emhal]

i would never let her near her drunk marval

[mandy52]

Well i believe what she said was awful but think that everyone deserves a second chance but with conditions attached...eg.
1. She never drinks when in your company and of course your child.
2. This will be her final chance.

[lylabellablueyes]

Does she have your daughter often? Why did she say 'Shes not her nanny?'

[emhal]

the only time she see the baby is with me, the reason why she said it because she hates me. I said she can hate me all she wants but its not the babies fault. I do feel like she treats the baby different from her other grandchildren (even though she is only 6 weeks)

[smoochiegal]

is the woman like that all the time or was it out of character? They say you speak the truth when you're drunk... it would make me vey cautious. You're a mum yourself now, your partner's mum and her behaviour isn't your responsibility you have enough to deal with. Does she think that her son isn't the father? If so that isn't going to change just because she has apolgised or was she just being an idiot. She is old enough to kno better. What does your partner think?

[emhal]

when she was drunk down the pub before she told my family i was pregnant before i did, Im not sure what she thinks as she calls me a *** all the time. Babies dad has stuck up 4 her and sayin i should just let it go but she tryed to start a fight with me when i was nearly 8 months pregnant on the bus.

[joko]

so its not an isolated incident... its not enough to do what you like and then just say sorry and think it makes it all ok... i would get tough with her - because this situation is for the rest of your childs life - i would lay down the law, be stern and warn her if any more trouble and she'll be out

you hold all the cards and she must understand that if she wants to be involved she has to change her mindset towards you...

[emhal]

yeah i will thanks joko