divorce and property

[net1961]

i am going through a civil partnership divorce and i am still sharing our house because we are joint tenants in a council house so we agreed to live together still as friends only. my ex partner has made such a big fuss about me being open and honest about what i discuss with my solictor which i am open and honest to her about. but last night as we have the same make and model mobile phones i picked hers up by mistake and read a text message from her mum basically saying they had found a room for her to rent where they live over 250 miles away.she has not mentioned at all even thinking about moving back to where her family live.i am very worried if she has hid this from me is she planning to move out and clear the house without even telling me as i spend some time away from home.is there any way i can prevent her doing this? i don't trust her now and certainly don't trust her family who would happily help empty the home of all they could load in a removal van.

[bednobs]

speak to her?

[bednobs]

there is nothing to stop her doing this, as there is nothing to stop you doing it. If she is renting a "room" it's very unlikely she'll have room for furniture

[muchlovex]

You may wish to speak to her about either you moving out or her moving out as obviously you still living together is not working and not allowing you both to move on with your lives.

See if she mentions that she is planning on moving out.

Good luck x

[net1961]

i have now brought up that i read her text message when i mistook the phones.she told me she had asked her mum to look for a room to rent for a weeks break .i asked her why didn't she stay with her parents she said they hadnt got room now they had moved and only had two bedrooms.so i remarked that they had had friends over to stay so it wasn't like they hadn't got room for people to stay she just then started making other excuses up. but i do find it hard to believe anyone would rent a room out just for a week probably i'm wrong there. don't get me wrong i would be glad if she moved out but at least she could be honest with her plans so i could arrange for a lodger to help pay the bills.i know she couldn't get much furniture in one room but i know her parents new house has several outside sheds which she could use for storage. i did try several times to discuss with her if either of us moved out who would have what.but she started claiming things that she said was hers even a tv which she had brought for me one xmas saying she brought it for the home not for me but that same xmas i brought her a cam corder but she said that wasnt for the home that was hers ????even the stair carpet which i clearly remember buying with some compensation i got she said she had grafted hard at work to buy it. i don't know if i'm thinking right but i would had thought the fairest way to share out items was any personal gifts we received was our own to keep but anything else regardless of whoose money paid for what was between us . i was trying to be fair i said she could have the large tv and i could have the 2 smaller old tv's upstairs but no she wanted one of them aswell. she has demanded if she moves out she will take the washing machine. i have even told her she can keep the car . i'm having to catch buses if i need to go into town.

[bednobs]

ok, well there you go then

[abstibus]

Surely you have a solicitor who can advise?