Jo Frost (Super nanny)

[mountainboo]

She appears to have a great deal of experience and seems knowledgeable about psychology. I'm just curious to know, does she have any qualifications in this field ie: a degree?

[ummmm]

Yes it is....and well said Helen...

Mary...life throws things at people that they weren't expecting/can't deal with. Strong people can dust themselves off and get their house back in order. Not so strong people can struggle...

People are way too quick to judge...

[sandrajo]

Ha, there's a big difference between her and parents, parents can't cash in on disciplining their kids, she began with no hands on experience, she obviously watched how people were with their kids and thought she could do better. As I said some of her advice is spot on but other things just annoy me.... most of the parents on these programmes are usually way too busy for the kids and that is why they don't see them turning into brats!!

[ummmm]

Don't agree....you don't notice them turning into brats because time flies. One day they are beautiful babies....the next they are trying to smack you in the face....

[annie0000]

lol ummmm - I think what helps me is to keep a vision of what I would like them to tun out like and then try to keep that in mind in everyday scenarios, Doesn't always work though ;o).

I also just look at my neighbours kids who are a total nightmare and think that at least I am doing a better job than that!

[MaryDou]

Sorry ummmm, I didn't mean to sound like a "Paragon of Virtue" - believe me I do know how difficult life has been, and continues to be, but the person with no say in that matter is the child who didn't ask to be here. All I mean is that the child will not know right from wrong if it isn't taught and shown by example. I do not mean to cause offence to anyone nor do I wish to judge other people I merely give my opinion.

[ummmm]

Yes Annie....I understand that :-)

I've watched parents struggle though....it's not easy for some. Some parents are just too scared to discipline in case their kids grow up hating them...

I'm of the opinion....I don't really remember being disciplined...so I assume my kids won't either.

[annie0000]

I'll give an example of two cases - My husbands brother died leaving 2 kids age 6 and 3, sister in law naturally devastated, wasn't a strong character to begin with, both kids conceived through IVF after years of trying. She gets what medication she can to get herself through and decides to take what help she can get but that she wants she kids to be a credit to their father and they are now 14 and 11 and not perfect, but lovely kids. My neighbour also widowed when kids were 5 and 2, then totally indulged them and pandered to them as compensation for dad not being there. Warning signs in terms of kids behaviour present from then on, the worse they behave, the more she indulges them, the police are now regular visitors, kids are bullies, other kids don't like them. No matter how many people point out that the behaviour is out of control, there is a refusal to believe it and blame always passed to other kids....and they are still only 12 and 9. So yes, people can have huge curve balls thrown at the in life, but when everyone is telling you that there is a problem, I believe that to continue to not accept that the behaviour needs dealt with is irresponsible and is obviously storing up huge issues. btw, the kids now repeat that "it's not my fault I behave badly, it's cause my dad died" fair enough for a while after the event, but to continue to latch on to that 7 years later, particularly for a child that was 2 at the time is wrong imo. they need to draw a line and move on. It is sad, but it also makes me angry.

[Buenchico]

Here's what Jo Frost's own website says about her background:
http://jofrost.com/jo-frost

Chris

[jno]

agree with ummmm, it's possible to know how to raise children without having any, just as it's possible to have children and have no idea what to do with them (which seems to be increasingly common). It may just be common sense, but plenty of people haven't got it, so good luck to her.

[4getmenot]

dont think someone needs children to be experienced

[ummmm]

<but to continue to latch on to that 7 years later>

Hey....you can't presume/assume how it effects someone....everyone is different...3 years after my Dad died and I'm still suffering. I know Sara3 lost her dad very young...it still effects her (sorry Saraxxx)

Who decides when 'we' should start acting 'normal'?

Luckily I have a partner who indulges my grief....from day 1....day 356...and today...

And until the day that I stop grieving....

I kinda agree with you though Annie

[annie0000]

Hi Ummmm - I didn't mean that they couldn't still be sad and grieve, but that using it as an excuse for bad behaviour 7 years later and also as an excuse not to do anything about that behaviour when it's got to the point of regular visits from the police is all wrong. i am talking here about a 9 year old who thinks it is okay to throw lit matches onto his neighbours decking because his dad died when he was 2! Another neighbour childminds for two kids who's mother died about 3 years ago, they are same ages as the nightmare kids, two nicer kids you could not imagine and their dad does his best to keep their mother real for them - it is so sad, the girl heard the neighbours girl using the "my dad died so i'm allowed to behave like this" excuse and turned round and said, "well my mum died and I don't behave like that!" Don't get me wrong, we have had more than our fair share of family tragedies, and initially (and even now) I did really feel for them as a family. I never knew the dad, they moved here after he died, but I would think that he would struggle to be proud of the way they are turning out.........and that is really sad.