i dont half pick em!

[nextqueen]

as a follow on to my other lunchtime saga a few months ago, this has to top it! i suggested meeting a friend for lunch at a local garden centre. we chose from the menu, realised that we had to order up at the bar so i went and as i didnt have my handbag with me, i put it on a tab. at the end we went up to pay, i got out my card and said i hadnt got enough cash. he didnt offer to pay towards it or split the bill and only when i had paid, he said thank you, might gracious of you! i couldnt believe how assuming he was and how unchivalrous! i was so peeved when i left him. i just said you can pay next time, maybe we can come back here, i was stunned. am i wrong to feel this way? after all, if you suggest going somewhere to someone, ie to spain, john lewis ..... would i be expected to fork out for it, dont think so, Grrrrrrrrrrrr!

[nextqueen]

nb he is a Bachelor at 46 and has dreadful BO!

[B00]

Yeah why not? He's a friend isn't he and you suggested the meeting for lunch thing?

[askyourgran]

Don't even consider a next time. Put it down to experience and move on.

[cazzz1975]

also some blokes avoid being chivilrous because they get a mouthful about being patronised, maybe he didnt know which way to go..?

[welshlibranr]

make sure that you go somewhere more expensive next time nextqueen! and of course, make sure he pays!.........or go to the same place, and order the most expensive dish on the menu!......lol..........

[bednobs]

they get away with it because YOU let them. What's wrong with saying "the bill comes to xxx why don't we split it half and half"?

[Huderon]

I must be terribly old fashioned then ... I'd expect to pick up the bill or possibly split it in that situation.

[islasmum]

One reason maybe whilst he's still a bachelor at 46! (the BO wouldn't help either!) I would always offer to pay half - it's nice if someone says no, lunch is on me, but I wouldn't expect it. So no, I'd be a bit hacked off with said "friend".

[milly143]

Even if I was sure the person I was having lunch with would pick up the tab, I would still attempt to offer them something towards it. It's just a bit rude not to really.

[jd_here]

My niece had a date with a boy many years ago. He went to the bar, ordered and payed for his drink and then stood back so she could order and pay for hers. Needless to say, the relationship didn't last!

[oxemzxo]

Aww. I feel your annoyance. Men are men... there are good ones, its just finding them. keep him as an accuaintance/friend.. normally when i go out with my friends even if i suggest it, we atleast halve everything. You can do better Mwah xx

[Old_Geezer]

It could be a genuine misunderstanding. In fairness you should have clarified beforehand that you didn't intend to treat your guest. When you used the card to pay the total bill it could be misconstrued. If this is a friend, then there may be other occasions when you have lunch together, and you could jest that it is his treat this time; see how that's taken. Meanwhile is he aware of his odour problem ? Was wondering if a friend could make a suggestion about it.