Should I talk to him or leave it ?

[Han18]

I've been with my boyfriend 7 months. I'm insecure and I've accused him cheating so he always reassures me and gives me his passwords to all his stuff. He says he tells me everything and has nothing to hide, he treats me really good and everything. I'm working on my insecurities but I found some email address he didn't tell me about. I'm like maybe he has something to hide? One of my ex's did this to me in the past, he treated me good but I found out he'd been chatting to girls behind my back. Should I just leave it? Or talk to him?

[rockyracoon]

Talk to him but I have to say coming from the other side of a similar scenario, constant accusations can wear you down and there will only be so much he will take. You really need to address your insecurities, not easy I know, maybe someone on here will be able to advise you a bit better. Good luck.

[redcrx]

an email address he didnt tell you about? You really are insecure, leave it.

[pa___ul3]

if he's going to that length to reassure you then he isn't cheating. I think you should leave it and use this as a first step to getting over your insecurities, I don't mean to sound harsh but it is your problem and although he's doing all he can to reassure you, if what he's doing isn't helping then he may wonder exactly what he has to do to keep you from thinking things like this. You need to learn to trust him.

[rockyracoon]

I said talk to him but didn't explain why, will you let it fester if you don't? because that will end up worse, probably in a big argument.

[Nosha123]

"I'm working on my insecurities"

Listen - you need to work on them harder... or you'll end up driving your boyfriend into the arms of someone less obsessed!

[Old_Geezer]

Just chatting to girls ?

I'm unsure I can add much to what has already been said. Life is full of risk and finding a partner isn't faithful is something you have to take in your stride if it occurs. But most folk are faithful, and in any case, it isn't reasonable to ban your partner from talking to other women. From your description he sounds very patient.

[Sqad]

Difficult one this....I will leave it to the experts.

[pa___ul3]

haha, well restrained sqad!! ;)

[Sqad]

Thanks pa_ul3.

[mike11111]

Sorry to hijack this for a mo, but as you are around Sqad I have posted an update to the statin thread.

http://www.theanswerb.../Question1047946.html

[zabado]

Love him or leave him. ( Trust cuts both ways )

[sallybb]

Sorry but I dont understand why 'chating to other girls is a problem'. Do you not talk to other males? If you cant except that opposite sex's talk to each other. Then your in for a lonely life.

[ummmm]

I can't remember half my email accounts.

I think maybe you would be better off single until you've sorted your insecurities out.

He's probably reassuring you because it's a new relationship. He will get bored of being checked up on though. You risk...

a) Him leaving you because you're making his life a misery and...
b) Him cheating on you because he's constantly accused of it anyway.