My daughter in law is falling apart, is there anything I can do to help her?

[321mc]

My son and daughter in law started dating in early 2007 and married the following year, everything seemed fine but then my son started saying he wasn't good enough for his wife and that she deserved better, she kept telling him not to be ridiculous and how much she loved him. But in June this year he ended their marriage telling her she deserved much better than him and he never wanted to see her again. She was absolutely heartbroken, she's since gone into a downward spiral, she's been let go from work and spends her days in her friend's flat where she is staying just staring into space. She found out a few weeks ago that she was pregnant and it just made her worse because she doesn't want to bring a baby into the world without a family. I went to see her the other day and she just cried the whole time saying how it's her fault she's the way she is because she put everything she is into the marriage and now she's lost everything. She is like an empty shell and has lost all her sparkle, I feel so bad for her. To make matters worse, my son has gone and gotten himself another girlfriend ridiculously soon after them splitting up which is breaking her heart even more. Is there anything I can do to help this poor girl?

[joko]

i agree that your son has lied.
if he really felt she was too good for him and was doing her a favour, his heart would be breaking now to hear how she is and that theres a baby...the fact that hes being cold and appears not to care less shows he just fell out of love with her - probably married too soon - or met someone else and just needed a way out.

i also agree she needs a doc...shes had a shock...her hormones are all over the place, and she needs some medical help to get her to a better place,


its pointless trying to get your son to go back, and also bad for her to think he might go back (although for now that belief may help until time has passed and shes stronger)

sad to say its better that she begins to feel anger towards him, at least for now, as itll help break the 'spell' he has over her an help her move on...

[sith123]

BEST THINK TO DO IS BE THERE FOR HER AND DISCUSS WITH YOUR SON!

[bagpuss63]

Just read this-could you persuade her to move in with you for a while? your son sounds selfish,and will get a well deserved shock if you phone him, saying she is with you,and he or 'new' gf are not welcome at yours-you are disgusted with his treatment of her... Hersh yes, but selfish people need a shock at times. Good luck