Our careers advisor is unmarried and pregnant

[Keeley16]

Our school is always teaching us that we should get married before we have children but our careers advisor who is also a supply teacher is unmarried and pregnant, she is in a relationship with the father but surely that goes against everything they teach us.

[LoftyLottie]

My cat is very profound Zeuhl!!!

[DTCwordfan]

especially as the cat can obviously type.....perhaps it ought to take up a career as a jobs advisor - especially if pregnant.

[Old_Geezer]

So she hasn't actually had children yet then?

Anyway the schoool as an entity is not the same as the individuals who work there. It'd be a bit mush to insist on how employees run their life. Too much of that tried on as it is.

Plau, I guess some (probably most or all) find it difficult to live up to their own (high ?) standards. On's spirit knows what it thinks is right, but the body turns out to be weak, as they say.

[LoftyLottie]

She's been spayed!!

[Old_Geezer]

Who? Keeley16 ?

[LoftyLottie]

LOL

[DTCwordfan]

then she is eligible to work in a RC school - bet she has a regular habit....

[Old_Geezer]

Clearly I typed 'bit much', not 'bit mush'.
This lack of an edit facility is soooooooo depressing.

[Keeley16]

I wasn't trying to say it shouldn't be allowed, there is one teacher who is very adament that people should be married first. I'm not saying it's wrong, it is just something I was curious about.

[redcrx]

so what is your question? what are you wanting to know?

[boxtops]

Lottie - I answer to Mira Handset all the time, LOL.

[Keeley16]

I was just wondering what other people's views were on it. I'm sorry I asked now.

[Keeley16]

I was just wondering what other people's views were. Not on my careers advisor in particular, she's a lovely woman and all the students have a lot of respect for her. But just on unmarried pregnancy, I should have worded it differently. I'm sorry.

[mccfluff]

my view is that as long as the baby is loved and cared for then i'm not bothered if the parents are married, together or apart

[Old_Geezer]

I think it is sad if apart. I can't see that being good for the child. But marriage is just a ceremony and piece of paper.

[cazzz1975]

I cannot see what her personal circumstances have to do with providing career advice, the nurse at my surgery weighs over 30 stone but she dispenses advice about healthy eating, a bit rich maybe but despite her shortcomings her advice is correct and informative.

[sunflower68]

Keeley16 it is quiet unusual in my experience for Uk schools to teach us that we should get married before children. Maybe 20 or 30 years ago yes but nowadays teachers have to be very wary of what is said due to many children being brought up with one adult in the home.
Also the curriculum has certain guidelines on what is taught but these "holier than thou" teachers creep through the system all of the time.
Times have (thankfully)changed so much since I was at school as a pupil and for the better I say. We should welcome everybody's beliefs and choices these days (or ideally should) as long as they don't harm anybodyx

[joko]

how do know shes unmarried? how do you shes not getting married very soon?

i dont think schools should be trying to shove this sort og thing down kids throats as though its a law. it just creates guilt and shame and fear.

marriage is just a piece of paper... its the parents that count...

[abbie-mac]

Keeley, at the end of it, it's your life. School teaches you lots of things, many of which have value. Marriage before children is simply a manner of opinion, so don't let other people tell you what to believe.