There are plenty of treatments available for facial hair, from simply plucking or waxing to laser removal. It's just up to you to keep on top of it and if you do, it will improve your confidence.
In terms of your weight, have you tried joining a class such as Slimming World. Sometimes even if you think you are eating all the right things, these classes help you realise where you are going wrong and provide much needed support. They are very effective.
Sometimes we have to help ourselves before others will help us.