Advice please!!

[Simon D.]

My single partner’s 18yr old daughter has decided upon herself to bring another dog home, she already has one. My partner was not consulted at all and she already ready has a lovely dog that is no problem at all. Her daughter’s boyfriend, who virtually lives in my partners house has gone and paid a £200 deposit and she has told she is bringing it home tonight!! My partner has a FT job, and 4 teenagers to look after and has to run a house and mainly look after the one current dog. All her family, including her father, have said that she must respect her mum’s wishes in that she does not want another dog but she is having none of it! I only see my partner at weekends due to my distance away from her and my job so I’m not around. I texted her daughter and still she will not listen. What should my partner I do if she turns up with this dog tonight?

[ummmm]

4 teenagers to look after? Teenagers can look after themselves....parents are there for love and guidance!!

I would simply just say no. End of discussion!

[EDDIE51]

2 very sencible replies but as we all know to our cost reason seems to fly out of the window when our kids are concerned.
I have 5 kids the youngest now 23 and they run rings around us.

[flump1]

Simon, I agree wholeheartedly with the earlier answers, Do not let the dog in. The daughter has been told and it seem no regard is being paid to the rest of the family or indeed your partner. This young woman is old enough to hold a tenancy of her own if she wants to keep dogs at home. Your partner really has to find the strength to stand up to her daughter with a resounding NO . Good luck.

[Simon D.]

The boyfriend does not have a home life that is why he virtually lives with my partners girlfriend, yes the daughter has a part-time job. My partner has already told her that she will have to live her father if this dog turns up, but knowing her father as I do I don't think this will happen. The only reason I add my bit is because I know how frantic my partner’s life is with all these kids and a dog and her job so I’m just trying to support her best I can. Ok, the daughter may l look after this additional dog but the bottom line is that my partner does not want it in her house! It is always my partner or me that does the poop-scoop run every weekend.... the kids don’t!

[Simon D.]

Thank you all for your constructive answers, I do whole heartedly agree that my partner should say no but I have a horrible feeling that the dog will turn up anyway and then what, its very difficult! My partner is not the strongest and she would rather give in sometimes rather than stand up to the daughter. She hates conflict and unrest.

[rowanwitch]

I'd poop scoop all the dog poo and leave it on the daughters bedside cabinet

[I.Don No]

her home, her rules, end of!

[China Doll]

I would take the dog to battersea or at the home of said boyfriend the minute it crossed the threshold. But ultimately it's your partners decision and if she is not willing to really put her foot down then she (and by default also you) will have to just live with it.

I can't imagine as a teenager bringing a pet home to my mums without her permission, she'd bloody kill me!

[cathfromsaron]

adios dog daughter and boyfriend!

and no subsidy or handots any more!

[woofgang]

Well but what is your partner doing? Yes you should support her in whatever she decides to do but evidently she allows the daughter and BF to live in the house and she does run the house and look after the children and dog. If she doesn't want to then she has to do something about it, you can support her, but she has to do it......poor dog :-(