i bought myself a new hairdryer today and it made me so happy!!!

[Jenarry]

not as mental as it sounds, the hairdryer i've been using for the past 10 yrs was a cheap one but it did the job and has never broken or given me trouble but it was bought for me by my ex when we were in a get back together phase which was never a good idea and didn't last.
and so i've been living with this hairdryer for years and every time i use it it causes me to think of my ex and the whole disastrous relationship and drawn out break up.and it now looks v worst for wear and I am so looking forward to throwing it in the bin tomorrow with all the associations. funny how possessions can become caught up in emotional feelings like this.

[bellazella]

Good for you

[boxtops]

Throw it in the bin NOW, don't wait until tomorrow!

[maggiebee]

Understand perfectly. I held on to photographs for many years then one day I took a tin bucket out the back door, sat on the doorstep and burned every one of them. Great feeling to shed the past.

[treetops1]

Try this for a new begining

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUtSrN_W5I8

[Jenarry]

should have done it ages ago but my thrifty side stepped in and stopped me. but it very worse for wear now so it's time to go. :O) :O) :O)

[boxtops]

I wish I weren't thrifty, I hang on to shedloads of stuff for far too long.

[Jenarry]

i don't know if anyone else has been thru this but i spent 11 yrs in a relationship with the ex in question in my early 20's then 30's and i really regret it. he had problems and didn't treat me well and my obvious lack of confidence led me to put up with this behaviour. i try not to believe in regrets(the journey we travel makes us who we are today) but it's hard for me to say that i dont regret this relationship. :O(
it's like i held up my life with this guy.to the point i'm deciding i'll have to give up on having a 2nd child because i'm running out of time.

[Jenarry]

:O(

[Jenarry]

and yes i need to do more of this.i've been having a good clear out and is to be continued.

[Prudie]

Jenarry I was also in a relationship like this for 10 years and also feel it's 10 years lost. Although I'm very very happily settled with someone else now for over 12 years there is hardly a day that the ex doesn't invade my head or my dreams.

[Jenarry]

not just me then prudie. i personally look back on that time and my mind screams that i shouldn't have put up with it/i should have moved on.and was almost like a different person back then. it feels very strange when i think about that 11 yrs of my life and how my life was. :O(

[Prudie]

I'm exactly the same, it was almost like I was in a different universe. I'm also so ashamed of how badly I let myself be treated that I've never really told any friends or family what went on. Anyway good for you dumping that dryer!

[Jenarry]

yes i'll second that, :O) he was a very dependant person and even now i wonder/worry about how is doing but i'm glad i made the break and made my own life away from his chaotic life and all the dramas.

[Jenarry]

and the same too. well done for making the break. xxx