I can't really explain the whole story, but I did something once under duress but with the best of intentions, to try to avoid something worse happening for someone. It ended badly didn't stop what was going to happen anyway more sadly. Years later I gave his mother and her younger children enough money to move somewhere entirely different, to a little village.All of it was to try to help the people concerned, but the house move has made a world of diffference to this lady's peace of mind, so while I'm not happy, at least some good has come of it.