Paying myself for mothers care

[nickjules54]

In October last year my mother moved out to Spain to live as she was very lonely in England, i am her only child and i have lived in Spain for 12 years and my business is here.

Shortly after her move out here my partner and I had to move from our rental home into her rental flat to look after her, this has become a 24/7 committment.

My mother sold her house in April 2012 and recieved 70,000pounds after bills.

As her funds are limited we may have to move back her back to the Uk into private nuring care, as the state would take over if her funds run out which would not happen in Spain

My question is are we entitled to any of her house monies to compensate us for moving home and acting as full time carers for a number of months or will the Uk Social Services expect her to have the full 70,000 less sensible living expenses

[bednobs]

don't they have nursing homes in spain?

[bednobs]

i also don't get why you have to be compensated - presumably if you moved into her flat and gave up yours you haven't had to pay rent?

[factor-fiction]

Hi bednobs- he's saying that once the funds run out she'd get care paid for in the UK but in Spain she'd be expected to continue funding it.
Maybe you should keep her in Spain for a few years, especially as she needs to be close to you. the money may never become an issue.
It's her money- does she want to pay you some as I'm sure reasonable costs would be accepted as reasonable. Are you suggesting that more than a reasonable amount should be given to you?

[bednobs]

have to agree with factor - 70k would get you 2 years in a nursing home probably - anything could happen in that 2 years, YOU could be run over by a bus and not have to worry about the things you are worrying about

[nickjules54]

Hi Factor, yes I want to claim reasonable costs but I do not want the social services accusing me of taking any monies i am not entitled to.

Re rent we share the rental costs but with my committment of cooking cleaning caring, washing her etc I think should have some reward, especially to compensate the strain it has put on my relationship with my partner. I am just worried that it may appear that I am taking monies i am not entitled to and do not have a right to.

[bednobs]

well if you wanted to be compensated, why haven't you asked your mum to give you money for looking after her? or why hasn't she offered? How can you just "take" money anyway?

[ladyalex]

You may get some advice/ideas from the Age UK website.

http://www.ageuk.org.uk/money-matters/

[cathfromsaron]

personally, i would stay in spain and enjoy the climate, and pay for excellent nursing care there! the 'free' nursing care here does not include 'free' accommodation or other expenses band that £70k will disappear in no time, leaving you in dreary old england with no business, no home and after a time inevitably no mum!

is it worth all the unheaval for some very inferior 'free' things?

[factor-fiction]

Have these responses helped you decide, nick?