Is it appropriate to comment on this

[hc4361]

from a society and culture point of view?

http://www.dailymail....neral-procession.html

Dreadful that the girl has been murdered but I hate this sort of funeral.

[coccinelle]

naomi; after cremation that is the norm in France.

[naomi24]

Really? Well, all due respect to the French - but yuk!

[Duncer]

I know yer woman that lives here with me will disagree, but I want to go in the cheapest coffin possible and head for the big fire, with as little show and ostentation as possible. I really don't see the point of wasting money on a container to bury me in as I will be dead and unaware of the cost. If others choose to comment then that is entirely up to them, but I'd rather the money saved went to Mrs D or a charity instead. I want only one wreath from family and the rest to go to cancer research in donations, if people feel moved to do so.

A friend from the Scottish Northern Ireland Supporter's Club committed suicide a few weeks back and they had a celebration of his life at the uni where he worked. I was unsure of this at the time and, if honest, probably didn't like the idea. I went and was very surprised to find it was a joyous way of celebrating him so I think I would ike something similar. The day consisted of music he liked, family and friends gathering together, a few speeches and a lasting memory of a lovely guy.

[hc4361]

Duncer, that's exactly how I feel about things.

[Duncer]

Sorry, my friend died a few years back. I have no idea why I typed "weeks".

[rockyracoon]

Duncer, you've summed it up for me. I like the idea of a celebration of life, it should be celebrated, I hope mine is. I think us British can be a bit uptight where death and funerals are concerned, too much stiff upper lip and all that, I think your friend had a great send off.

Back to the OP, I don't like ostentatious funerals but agree with bednobs, it's a public proclamation of love, the last thing you can do for a loved one.

[Duncer]

Rocky, if I'm totally honest I thought it was a dreadful idea until I went. I don't know if that's my British stiff upper lip or a touch of ignorance from never experienced anything like that before, but it was an absolute revelation. I got to hear things about him that I didn't know, I got to meet friends from his other contacts and I was left with a very warm memory of a guy who people really didn't have a bad word to say about. There were tears, as at a funeral, but there was laughter too, and people mixed and shared wonderful memories in a way that probably wouldn't be enitrely appropriate at a funeral. I would recommend it to anyone.