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narcassist or not?
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hi peeps, I've been dumped again by my chap (3rd time)after going on a weeks holiday with him. My friends are all disgusted by his behaviour and reckon he's a narcassist. If i explain some of his behaviour what do you guys think?
He was always full of himself
he never really listened to me
he blew hot and cold on me
he said he loved me then binned me
he was always bragging about his achievements (owns his own business)
he got stressed easily and made false promises
if i criticized him he went mad at me
he was jealous and insecure of me
he spoke over me
these are just a few of the things i noted as time went on. Yes i was stupid to take him back the 2nd time. This time he dumped me saying he decided he didn't want any more children and he knew i did, but i think that was an excuse. I think he was angry at me because i stood up for myself. I criticized his relationship with his ex (mother of his children) there is no love lost between him and his ex wife, and he was constantly criticizing my ex husband as a father, yet when the tables were turned he blew!! He then came to my little girls party, spoke with my family and my ex husband for a long time, was loving towards me, then the next day he came around to my house saying its over. I heard on the grapevine he'd told someone we didnt get on on holiday, which was a lie. (his kids were the problem!)so i text him to say i heard what you said, thanks a fkn lot! he then rang me 13 times texting me etc to rectify the situation. I just am a mess. Its been 3 weeks now, i definately don't want him back... i don't think he'll try to get me back either, but i feel emotionally abused. Have i been? or am i just too sensitive, and i accept this is the way i deserve to be treated? I've been going no contact with him. thankyou
He was always full of himself
he never really listened to me
he blew hot and cold on me
he said he loved me then binned me
he was always bragging about his achievements (owns his own business)
he got stressed easily and made false promises
if i criticized him he went mad at me
he was jealous and insecure of me
he spoke over me
these are just a few of the things i noted as time went on. Yes i was stupid to take him back the 2nd time. This time he dumped me saying he decided he didn't want any more children and he knew i did, but i think that was an excuse. I think he was angry at me because i stood up for myself. I criticized his relationship with his ex (mother of his children) there is no love lost between him and his ex wife, and he was constantly criticizing my ex husband as a father, yet when the tables were turned he blew!! He then came to my little girls party, spoke with my family and my ex husband for a long time, was loving towards me, then the next day he came around to my house saying its over. I heard on the grapevine he'd told someone we didnt get on on holiday, which was a lie. (his kids were the problem!)so i text him to say i heard what you said, thanks a fkn lot! he then rang me 13 times texting me etc to rectify the situation. I just am a mess. Its been 3 weeks now, i definately don't want him back... i don't think he'll try to get me back either, but i feel emotionally abused. Have i been? or am i just too sensitive, and i accept this is the way i deserve to be treated? I've been going no contact with him. thankyou
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.As grffindoor2011 has already said, I suspect he'll be back, tail between his legs, bunch of flowers, chocolates etc. begging forgiveness and promising to change his ways.
You will have to be strong and close the door. This type of man is incapable of changing his ways. When you say no he will be shocked because he is used to getting his own way. He will persist for a while because he won't want to feel a failure, and that's what you will be doing to him.
He will get the message eventually, but it could take a long time.
You will have to be strong and close the door. This type of man is incapable of changing his ways. When you say no he will be shocked because he is used to getting his own way. He will persist for a while because he won't want to feel a failure, and that's what you will be doing to him.
He will get the message eventually, but it could take a long time.
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