Do I ask if we're just friends?

[EvianBaby]

So I've been out with this guy a couple of times. We seem to get on really well and he texts me all the time. Thing is I can't work out if he's actually interested in that way and maybe just not very forthcoming or if he feels like he's just made a new friend. I kind of want to know if I'm flogging a dead horse and avoid making a tit of myself but as we've only known each other a few weeks is a bit much much if I just come out and say what's the deal?

Jees, I feel like I'm bloody 16!

[ummmm]

But they have only been on 2 dates. Not every bloke tries to jump someone on the first couple of dates.

[Anngel]

Why not just "lose your phone" for a week and see if he makes to effort to actually see you. As one of the older generation I find it incredible how impatient everyone is to have instant answers to everything. Or it could be that he's just not into you!

[Old_Geezer]

"But they have only been on 2 dates. Not every bloke tries to jump someone on the first couple of dates."

My big regret in life. I was brought up to be too much of a gentleman to jump on enough women early enough, but waited for clear signals: and I'm sure missed out because of it. Upbringing eh .... :-( He who dares, wins, apparently.

[ummmm]

If a bloke tried it on with me too soon it would put me off.

[factor-fiction]

I agree ummmm but if EvianBaby is keen on him I'm sure she'd like al least to see a bit more of him.

[factor-fiction]

^ i mean in terms of seeing him a bit more often than twice in a fortnight

[ummmm]

And she'll have to bite the bullet and ask him out ...

We obviously don't know what he does in his spare time or how much free time he actually has.

[Kiki-frog]

I wonder if you're giving him mixed signals. I suspect if you feel a bit awkward with him sometimes, he may interpret this as lack of interest, and then when you're relaxed and happy your body language and facial expressions are telling him something else. He's probably a bit confused, poor guy. I only say this as I was once told by a man that I did just that.

You've been out twice and he texts you all the time. If he just saw you as a friend, I don't think he'd bother with all the texting. Is he continually texting all his other mates?

Next time you're together, why not give him the opportunity for a bit of kissing. And I don't mean jumping on him and shoving your tongue down his throat. But when you're standing or sitting close to him, just turn your face towards him, hold eye contact and smile a little... and see what happens. x

[snags]

Just ask him. 'making a tit of yourself' isn't the end of the world and could be worth it: you'll then know one way or the other.

[EvianBaby]

I haven't asked him.

I did pluck up the courage to ask if he wanted to go out again and he said yes (in a way) but we haven't arranged anything. Tbh, I don't think he's that bothered so I'll just stop thinking about it and see what happens.

[Hopkirk]

Looks like you'll have to do the running on this one

[EvianBaby]

Running? With these thighs! Nah.

[pizza]

The fact that he texts all the time means he def likes you.
I would say to him "when are we off out again,it's christmas soon do you want me in your stocking?" and look for the reaction lol x