How To Approach My Husband

[TCoys28]

Lately, my husband has been talking a lot on his sleep. Most of the time, it doesn't make any sense, but a few weeks ago, he said "Babe, I miss you". I asked him the following morning who he calls babe (he doesn't call me babe) and he didn't answer straight away. He kept asking "why". I told him what he said in his sleep, and he just laughed at me. Told me he was probably singing a song. He then got frustrated that I even asked him.
I have been paranoid since and I have never done the following since we've been together - I looked at his phone.
There is someone he has been flirting with via whats app! This morning he told her he dreamt about her!!
This has upset me a lot. I know he hasn't seen her face to face, but this has still proper p***ed me off!

Any advice on what I should say/do?

[happyone2]

I agree with what is being said - this is an issue between you and your husband, as the "other woman" in a relationship, i would not, for one moment back off because his wife contacted me - whether she was nice about it or nasty.

If a married man approaches a woman on whatever level - but certainly more than a friendship one if he wants to be in her warm bed - he is not as happy at home as you think and perhaps you need to look at your "lovey" relationship in the light of the possible evidence that you have unearthed.................believe me happy men dont stray AT ALL.

So, if he is unhappy enough within your marriage to look elsewhere, then get over it being HIS issue...............because its not, its BOTH of you..........so you need some honesty with yourself and with him about what is wrong because until you do you wont know how serious this issue really is................. look at your own dynamics

Good luck

[Dee Sa]

is not exactly a good time right now, but sit him down and tell him what u know and have heard him say.sooner or later you have to face it and good luck.

[NoMercy]

Oh dear, I've been there. I found flirty exchanges on my fiancé's phone and when I confronted him, he just lied and lied and lied and lied and lied. He even lied on his kids' lives.

Can you not delete this app from his phone and delete her from his fb?

I think your only choice is ultimatum: tell him to sever all contact or move out.