relationships or not? that is the question

[figwit]

I don't know whether to break up with my boyfriend or not... or if there's a good way to do it.

he's nice, but I guess I don't really want to be in a relationship right now. being single is great.

the thing is though, he's attached to me. every time he sees me he likes me more and more.

and I don't know whether I even want to break up with him. I feel like I'm going through midlife crisis though I'm not near, and I'm not a male.

he left for a 2 week trip, I got two emails from him on one day, then nothing the rest of the time, he got back today, and I still havent heard from him. should I be angry or not?

should I stay in the relationship with him and hope it holds out for the better? or should I dump him and maybe regret it later for cutting it off just because I've been crusty the past two weeks or so?

[joko]

if he didn't contact you for two whole weeks and still hasn't, he can't be that attached to you!

You obviously don't love him and can't really see a future together so dump him now before he gets even more attached to you.

[veritymoon]

how long have you been together? its hard to comment without knowing how you felt before theses last 2 weeks if you dont love him and have been together long enough for you to know if you have/ can love then get out before any more damage is done.

if you think its maybe a blip or its worth trying to salvage then talk to him so you know 100% how he feels , if you cant talk to him then get out you need to be honest with each other for a relationship to work.

[figwit]

We've been dating for a little over a month now.

[veritymoon]

gosh thats not long now understand why your unsure.

when i first met my other half i knew on the fisrt date he was special, we had spooky things in common and just clicked but after a few weeks he was very keen and i was keen but not as much as him. i had to say to him in the end i felt a bit crowded and bit rushed, he took it well and when he realized how much i did really like him he chilled out so much.

i guess if you think theres something worth developing than give it some time but it sounds like you have already made your mind up to cut your losses, maybe hes just not the one.

[Scarlett]

I find that being away from someone puts the relationship into perspective. You realise what they actually mean to you. It seems like you have got used to him not being around and quite like it! I think you should arrange to meet up with him and see how you feel about him then. Did you reply to the 2 emails? Maybe he expected you to write to him first, and felt like he was putting in all the effort

Either way, this doesn't sound like "can'tlivewithouthim" love. Maybe finish with him and spend some time being single?

[Vics]

Oh Poor you Figwit. Yep breaking up/finishing things is hard when they've not actually done anything wrong!

Give yourself a break perhaps and then you may see things in a clearer light. Good Luck Vics X