Tomboy

[*ALFIE*]

Why do some girls at some point in their lives become tomboys ? Whats the fascination of becoming like a guy ? I think its a huge turn off watching a girl or a woman being so manly. Why do they do it ? It's horrible.

[lady_p_gold]

Well to me a tomboy is quite a young girl and I actually think that there is something to do with sexual development in the phase .. .and I also have a theory that they often go on to be highly sexual females so maybe you might have a different way of looking at them.

[neathgirl]

In some cases i dont think its necessarily being manly as you put it... but more a case of being interested in activities etc which are seen by society as male in nature, such as football, cars etc. Being labelled a tomboy is what people do in order to categorise and make sense of being interested in these stereotypically `male` activities.

I dont think its a fascination of becoming like a guy but just what the girl is interested in.

One of my school friends was a bit of a tomboy but i think it was more to do with the fact that she grew up with older brothers .... and i guess as a kid you are influenced by what your older siblings are interested in and doing, therefore becoming interested in these things too. Also, im sure anyone who has younger siblings will agree that they always wanted to follow you around when you were younger.

Maybe this copying of siblings is an explanation of why some girls are `tomboys`.

Btw - not meaning to generalise but in some instances what i have said may occur.

[*ALFIE*]

Yeh, its ok, it does make sense actually neathgirl :) cheers..

[neathgirl]

Your welcome Alfie xx

[gingerflaps]

lady_p_gold you have got it in one, im quite amazed, you have sumed me up. when i was younger i wanted to be a boy, i was the most tomboyish tom-boy u'd ever see, i would climb trees play football and even walk around with just shorts on like 'the lads' (i was only 9) but now i'm the most highly sexual person i know, and i am also very female but theres still that tom-boy part of me inside

[gingerflaps]

oh and neathgirl i was am the eldest out of my siblings and my cousind, i have 10 girl cousins 1 sister and just 1 bro, and my bro was never boyish, he never did lad stuff, so i cant relate to what u say

[enigma]

Alfie , I use the term tomboy to describe young girls - like my eldest daughter (8) - who play with traditionally boys toys and prefer the company of boys to girls. I have heard the term 'ladette' used to describe women who drink pints , watch football , sit with their legs crossed 'like men' are sexually dominant and can be quite forward but to I believe that it's their prerogitive to do so if they wish . I don't believe that they wake up one morning and make a conscious decision to start being 'a man' - more likely that it is their preference to watch football and drink pints. It may not be my preferred choice but each to their own and it's their right to do so if they wish.

I have two daughters and a baby son and my girls couldn't be more opposite from each other. My eldest daughter is the ultimate tomboy and always has been. Her dress up outfits were always pirate costumes , buzz lightyear outfit , star wars etc and she played with guns , swords and fottballs - no matter how many little dollies and pink things I bought her. She always wrinkled her nose in displeasure. My hubby and I love her to bits and wouldn't change her for the world - although admittedly , my heart sank a little when she bounced down the street towards our house with her best friend (male) - her dressed as Batman ! Our two year old daughter however tells us that she is a fairy princess , wants to live in a castle (she should be so lucky!) and adores everything pink , sparkly , girly and wants to go to bed with new clothes on - especially her ballet tutu. My point is that you can't make sweeping generalisations about how girls/women should behave because not everyone is the same. I believe in giving my children freedom (within reason of course) to express themselves as they wish and if they choose to watch football , then so be it. Whatever makes them happy being the key issue.

[blueeyedlass]

i was never tomboyish i was a girly girl i liked nail polish and hair etc but my sister loved her old tatty baseball boots and climbing trees !!!

[*ALFIE*]

awww...bel :) how are you these days ? Its sooo great to hear from you.

[blueeyedlass]

hello alfie how are you mate ?? im not too bad at the moment just swearing my ladylike head off over in cs at the moment !!! waiting with baited breath for the return of cb ( think ill be waiting a long time ) !!! so are you well ?? what have you been up to?? are we allowed to chat in here since its your thread ??lol

[*ALFIE*]

Of course we can chat here ...? lol i prefer MSN to be honest now that CB's gone :-( I've been ok thanx - but missing you....lol! Since CB ended, I don't come on here much, not even on CS. Like everyone else, I do wish that CB comes back up and running though.

[blueeyedlass]

yeh ive not really been on here much since cb closed either , ive made a nice wee comfy bed for myself over in cs and the new froggers world site is great too .did you have a nice christmas and happy new year !! lol ok ok i know its the middle of january now but hey better late than never eh .

[*ALFIE*]

Yeh, i had a great xmas and new year, thnx. Hope you did too. Best wishes for 2006, belated..lol Hmm...a nice comfy bed in CS ? maybe i'll join you sometime there......? lol...you such a darling Bel...xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[gingerflaps]

about the whole tomboy thisg, as i have said i was a tomboy when i was younger and the 1 thing that worries me now is that if i give birth to a girl, will she grow up to be a lesbian. i know that this thought is crazy but it kinda scares me because i dont know how to raise a girl, i think i'd dress her how i dressed, its a stupid thought but it does bother me a little. can anyone reassure?

[joko]

Labelling a girl a tomboy is a victorian type attitude that girls should sit still and do embroidery all day or play with dolls and boys should be out learning to hunt.

It is society that puts these stereotypes on our gender not nature. if it was, then women would be an endangered species - women are stronger than they are often given credit for.

A more even balance is natural - girls shouldn't be delicate flowers who are helpless and giggly and men shouldn't be wide-necked butch macho men - we are naturally neither of those things

overly macho or overly girly is too much either way, but it mostly occurs because people have an ingrained idea of how they should be.

[blueeyedlass]

well gingerflaps are you a lesbian?? if that was the way you dressed and acted and you arent then why would a child of yours be just because you followed suit with her !!