How Well Would You Say You

[emmie]

know your other half. I was pondering this after reading a review of a book i hadn't heard of but do intend to buy soon.

I thought i knew my o/h, but there were any number of things i didn't find out till after he died. Good, bad, or anything in between, would be interested in your views.

[Mrsspagnoli57]

I honestly believe that every person keeps a part of themselves to themselves however close they are to their partner. This doesn't have to be anything sinister but maybe just something they feel better not sharing or knowing. I suppose that because every person is different they feel comfortable,or not,about sharing things. I like to think I know what is important to know and maybe the secrets are not worth the knowing anyway?

[woofgang]

I knew him better than anyone. I know there were things he never would discuss which I respected. I know he never even mentioned their existence to anyone else/

[emmie]

interesting, not so much the things that might be secretly kept from us, but sometimes what the person thinks of you deep down, and of course visa versa. When we wish they were a million miles away, the sulks, moods, or the daily grind of work, life, when you just get on one another's nerves.
Whether he, she is having an affair, or had one and you never found out till after you split, or the person dies. Like the cases you some time hear of two families living a few miles apart, where the guy is head of the house so to speak in both, but neither women, family know of the other. It had me wondering if we know anything about anyone, friends, family, loved ones, or we just think we do.

[jno]

I think cases of bigamy are still pretty rare. I expect my OH knows more about me than anyone else, and vice versa, as we have lived together a long time. Neither of us knows everything, though, nor wants to.

I am not leaving any nasty surprises to be uncovered after I die, however.

[emmie]

the book in question, not saying just yet, questions the relationship of the couple and their marriage seems to be a war of attrition, and that after some thought i reckon that we all go through those stages, when he sulks because he can't do the garden because it's pouring with rain, or that look she gives you, enough to say you nit wit, or worse, wishing they would disappear, even for a little time. A very long relationship must throw up all sorts of surprises....

[murraymints]

My oh is an open book....far too verbose to keep anything back....I'm quite different...private person, not taken to the, confession is good for the soul school of thought....not that I have anything to hide..but my past is MY past....

[Iluvspikey]

I think I know most things, then he surprises me - which I love, means you don't take each other for granted then

[emmie]

what is interesting and i think it does apply to most people, is that for the first say two years, maybe less of the relationship, you present this person, face to the other, and they to you. No one is ever who they really are, trying to create a good impression, not rock the boat, you are in love after all. The honeymoon period though does come to an end and then the real you starts to emerge. Causing some sea change, that is what i am intrigued by, and the book explores that. How we expect a lot from our spouses, partners, and we, they rarely deliver.