Ladies who don't like men

[Tock389]

Can anyone explain to me why straight males are fascinated by lesbians and their bedroom habits? Especially as they cannot physically take part? I don't think women feel the same about gay men?

What do people think?

[andyjevs]

It's a man thing...believe me and if you show me a straight man who doesn't like watching lesbian action then i'll show you a liar.

I would imagine that the ultimate fantasy for most blokes would be a threesome with two stunning lesbians....it is mine. It's something i've never tried but hey, i'm only 39 !!!

[Quizmonkey]

The saddest thing of all is that the girl-on-girl stars are never lesbians anyway but just 'doing it' for the cameras.

[AliFlump]

I think you have to have some kind of lesbian tendancy to do their 'work' tho.

[andyjevs]

That's not sad at all....it's fantastic !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[*ALFIE*]

Its all curiosity and human nature for us guys.

I know a guy (i know you consider this silly) who is absolutely fascinated about women (Les') not wanting to be in a sexual relationship with a guy(!) Can't a guy please a woman ?

But a woman can argue back and say the same thing about a guys (gays) not wanting to be with a woman.

Sorry if this causes offence to anyone - its all far too debatable.

[Betty Boop x]

"You know, I have never understood the male obsession with lesbianism - a whole area of sex with nothing for them to do. Just answered my own question, haven't I?"

This is a quote from a very funny TV show called 'Coupling' and is said by one of the woman in the cast.

I don't understand the obsession myself but may be this goes some way to explaining it!!

x

[andy-hughes]

OK andyjevs I'm a 'liar'.

As longp-standing ABers will know, because it has been discussed before, I have no interest what ever in watching lesbians ... being lesbians, it does nothing for me at all, so i can't explain the fascination Tock389 because I don't have it.

I had a close lesbian friend at work years ago, and she told me i was the first straight man she'd met who didn;t go all glassy-eyed when she told me she was gay. We went on an office junket to Dublin for a weekend, and i shared a room with her and her partner for two nights, and as ytou'd expect, I went happily off to sleep without a thought for what they may or may not have been doing just a few feet away.

It did make dresing and undressing unembarassing - they had nothing I hadn't seen before, and i had nothing they were interested in, so it all worked out fine.

i think andyjevs is guilty of stereotyping with his answer, but I'll let him off .... this time!

[OBonio]

I think it is a selfless act of love the threesome thing. I mean, once us men have rolled over and gone to sleep, the women can keep on going!

[*ALFIE*]

Tell you the truth, to be absolutely honest - I don't like threesomes. I have no interest in it and does nothing for me at alI. I prefer the natural one two one, man and woman - just what us human are naturally made to do. Thats all it it is with me really. Even animals live this way - if thats not what you call human nature, then what is?! :)

[VINNY100_2]

Im straight ,and it dont turn me on ...Sorry(:)

[mimififi]

I think, men generally want what they can't have and so it's not the lesbianism that is appealing, it is the forbidden fruit thing, or rather, the challenge of them liking to think that they are so amazingly wonderful in that dept that any old lesbian would obviously allow him to join in and then be wowed over: Scales would fall from eyes, the heavens would open and this lesbian couple would stay for ever with him for the endless nights of threesomeness that he was able to provide so adequately. men are also essentially lazy (sorry to generalise) and would probably embrace the idea of not only one but two females doing all the work for the activity and him not having to do anything at all.

So, I agree with Betty Boop. That is probably where the whole thing comes from.........

SOrry if I have offended any males out there, I wasn't actually intending to, just the sad facts, 1, you want what you can't have, 2 you like to have women running around after you......

:-)

[Honey pot]

Quiz monkey has made a very valid point! I totally agree with him. Lesbians DO NOT have sex with men if these women are sleeping with men then they are Bi sexual.Two totally different sexualities!!

[simsfreq]

From the man's point of view I should think it's to do with seeing women turned on. Women wear makeup - whether they know this or not - to give their faces the appearance that they are turned on. So when a woman wearing makeup looks at a man his brain interprets the signals that she finds him desirable.

To watch two women who are obviously turned on by each other would fascinate him because it's something he's never likely to experience. Think of little boys being infinitely curious about the places that are out of bounds.

A man might also not want to watch "straight" porn because it involves looking at naked men other than himself, which could cause subconscious jealousy.

The majority of women don't like looking at porn full stop. A lot of women would be offended if they found their husband or boyfriend watching porn. (I don't understand this personally) Women are not so visually stimulated as men.

I am probably a freak in that I find men attractive, women attractive but also gay men attractive in a completely different way to straight men. I also have a fantasy involving gay men... which I know isn't ever going to come true.

[Lonnie]

How about God, i'm not wanting to debate religion, but he outlawed Homosexuality, but allowed Lesbianism. This proves God is male.

[*ALFIE*]

Really ? I thought they were both outlawed. Its news to me Lonnie.

[Drusilla]

So who's going to make a massive financial offer for my holiday snaps with my ex-girlfriend??
They're naughty, but nice! apparently!!!

[Sweet cheeks]

Hey Tock389! I think that it's just that on the whole, men can't stand the thought of not being wanted sexually by a woman, and there for they have to kid themselves that the women would want him there in the first place and after having a 'session' with him, the women would see their sorry way, be etternaly grateful to him and worship him forever! He then could go down the pub with his mates and boast about his conquest!! Just a thought!?!?!

[Mr Monkey]

I�m not so sure ALL men *are* that turned on by purely lesbian activity.

In my experience, I didn�t find watching two women together that great per se, and I adore women, preferring female company to that of any man. I once had a fling with an Asian diplomat who, latterly told me she had been experimenting with bisexuality. Apparently she had �seduced� (her words) a female friend. When she next came to visit said friend appeared too. I was intrigued, especially by what would happen later, post-cocktail bar.

I�ve never told anyone else this story. You don�t need the details but we did spend the night together. What holds in my memory so fiercely, and marks that night out as one of the (many) highlights of my life, was most definitely NOT the �watching two girls together� clich�. It was the ability of seduce and make love to my friend at the same time as her female friend did so. It was a transcendental experience. From a purely mechanical perspective, there�s so much more one can do when you have four hands, two mouths etc. Just the massage would have been fantastic. Like I said you don�t need the details! But even more intense was the synergistic emotional input of three people together, giving each other pleasure, and falling asleep cuddled up.

But the stage which did not benefit from my male input, I simply walked out and made a cup of tea. [Yes, gentlemen, it�s true - say what you will]. It felt wrong to stare like some king of perv, and disrespectful to my friends who may have wanted some. I don�t feel I missed anything. When I knocked a little later they were delighted to have me back anyway.

[Mr Monkey]

Oops sorry to bust the word limit�

Erratum: Above should read [� my friends who may have wanted some *privacy*�]

BUT such events don�t translate into long term relationships for a variety of reasons. Primarily, I believe, due to the icy blast of conflicting emotions which occurs in the morning. Humans have evolved to be (probably) serially monogamous, and our brain chemistry just can�t deal with this stuff long-term. (Hmm� don�t get me started on neurotransmitters and oxytocin). I never saw the diplomat girl again; and seeing her friend independently, which I did once, just felt wrong.

I�d be fascinated to hear of any woman-man-woman relationship that has endured. Does it ever work?

Take care all, Michael.