The female mind

[GazAbdn]

Hello everyone, really need some help to understand my ex girlfriend!

We broke up quite recently after what was a pretty whirlwind relationship in which we spent far too much time together than was probably healthy for us, but we knew the spark was gone and we split up with what i thought was a mutual respect.

Today, she started texting me messages, accusing me of going around town, slagging her off, telling me i'm immature for doing this, spreading rubbish about her and why we broke up etc. I was gobsmacked by this, all i've ever said to anyone was that we hadn't been getting on lately,feeling's had changed, that it was what we both wanted, and that i wouldn't hear a word against her!

When i asked her to tell me what i'd supposedly been saying about her and who'd been telling her this (a reasonable question i thought?) her response was basically ''there is no point........... let's do the mature thing and drop it............if you said anything or not is of no consequence as the matter is resolved as far as i can see''

What is she on?? Is this some sort of trick of her own paranoia to try and find out if i have been miscalling her?? It shouldn't bother me but it really annoy's me!!

Any similar experiences or thought's on this would be greatly appreciated!!

[teag1rl]

yep, mdoo is right, if she really wanted to drop it she wouldn't be texting! we're a funny lot!

[metagirl]

agree teag1rl - its so fun to see the male side! Don't worry she'll stop bothering you when she meets another guy.

[zara 4]

The womens mind is one of the biggest unsolved mysteries of all time,at least thats what my hubby tells me and after 19 years he still cant understand.

[GazAbdn]

that's what i thought, damn women, can't live with em n all that!! Thank's all lol

[WoWo]

"Any similar experiences"

I used to be close friends with a girl once, we never really "went out" as such but we were close and there was chemistry for want of a better word. I didn't see her for about 5 years and in that time I got married. She contacted me by email and we decided to meet up for a drink, nothing heavy but we did use to get on like a house on fire so it sounded like fun. We went out and had a good time, chatted etc etc, I obviously the fact I was married came up in conversation.

Then about a week later she sends me a text message going on about how I had lied to her, she said that I was lying about being married and a friend of a firend who sort of knew my dad had said that I wasn't married.

It was really wired, firstly because I had nothing to gain by telling her I was married, I could understand if the reverse had happened and I had said I wasn't married and she found out I was (but even then it wasn't as if I had done anything to suggest I was interested in her). Secondly it was obviously rubbish because at that point I had been married for about 3 years, I had no idea who the person she was talking about was.

It was all very odd and it ended up with me sending a message saying please don't ever contact me again. I told my wife all about because I didn't want this women phoning up and talking to her.

[Bohne]

The other way round I had a similar problem.

After I split up with an ex-boyfriend, he used to call me up and tell me all kind of stuff that I was supposed to have done.
The worst thing was, after a while I had to accept that he really believed everything he'd made up in his crazy little mind.

I have not heard from him in many years now, and that's probably for the best!

[zara 4]

Do you know,I think in both cases (bohne & wowo)is that cos the other persons in question weren't the most important people in your life anymore,they wanted to make damn sure they were again,so what better way than to start rumours and make you both paranoid,if that worked then they're back where they want to be!

[alijangra]

Personally I think she is using it as an excuse to make contact, even if it is confrontational in her eyes its still maybe an excuse to get in touch.

[alijangra]

Gavin from Aberdeen? lol

[alijangra]

your name gives too much away!

[GazAbdn]

Sorry alijangra, my names not Gavin, i'm from a toen nr Aberdeen not in Aberdeen!!

Zara4, i think you've hit the nail on the head!! It's a shame there were only 3 stars to rate you!!

[zara 4]

Thank you GazAbdn