First off, you should retain a lawyer for yourself. Second, you are setting a very bad precedent for your daughter. She called for help and now you want to stay silent and leave her to be responsible for the police being involved? Would you want her to stay silent if her husband choked her? If you want a better relationship with your spouse, make him be accountable for his action, then he can get help for his anger and may think twice before hurting you again. I was in your shoes and we split for a year and a half while he got his act together. We have been back together for 10 years, celebrated our 20 anniversary. No more hitting ever. Good luck, and don't make a joke out of domestic abuse by being silent. You help no one, and you hurt your daughter