should i tell him?

[lil_jenny]

i think im in love with my best friend but i dont have the courage to tell him. im scared he wont feel the same and i will ruin our friendship.. should i tell him or should i try to move on? please help!

[kate1976]

You say you think you're in love with him so until you're certain, don't say anything!

I went through a phase of having a 'thing' for my best friend, I told him in a jokey manner that I'd had a dream we were together and he said it'd be too weird to be with me in that way so I just laughed, agreed, went home and cried!! A few days later we were back to normal!!

That was about 7 years ago now and I've told him since that I wasn't joking, we've had a good laugh about it and I wouldn't change our friendship now!!

Only you can decide to tell him or not, if you go for it, I do suggest the way I did it, in a jokey manner, that way if you don't get the response you want then you can laugh it off, run home & cry (if you're like me!!!)

Good luck with it and don't worry if he doesn't respond the way you want him to, there's somebody out there for everyone, just have fun!

[robbo82]

If he's really a true friend, telling him shouldn't be a problem. If he feels the same way, great; if not, your friendship should be strong enough to not let it be affected. But like kate says, make sure of your own feelings first.

[lil_jenny]

ok thanks.. im about 98% sure im in love with him.. i will try and tell him but im just worried cos we are never serious with eachother so even if he does feel the same way he might not tell me.. :(

[funkymoped]

dont do it jenny.

being in love is more than words.. to love someone is fine, to tell them youre "in love" is much much more.

the ice is getting thinner by the second, i wouldnt tread on it.

[funkymoped]

sorry if my thread sounds snotty.

not intended how it may read.

was trying to give un-biased advice, not be snotty..

good luck if you do spill the beans.. :-)

[lil_jenny]

ahhh, now im so confused! i dunno what on earth to do.. i could just tell him i like him alot?!

[funkymoped]

one day, one step at a time.

ask him out on a date, just the two of you. then go with the flow. believe me, he may think the sun shines from you, but dont tell him youre " in love" with him.

hope you and others understand my way of thinking.

[lil_jenny]

u cant just ask ur best mate out on a date it wud be weird lol. and im not gunna tell him im IN love with him.. never mind i wont do anythin

[funkymoped]

dont ask him out on a date then, just make time to be with just him.

tell him you always liked him. im not trying to make you feel bed, just trying to point out that being "in love" is BIGGER than loving someone.

:-)

[funkymoped]

omg !!

not trying to make you feel BAD!! LOL

[lil_jenny]

oh ok... lol it doesnt matter i wont tell him thanks anyway

[funkymoped]

your original post.

"should i tell him or just try to move on ?"

dont move on, but dont be so forward.

you found someone special. most people never do.

if he knows you, he will see through the jokey side of you.

chase him girl, just be casual.

[lil_jenny]

ok will try.. will tell him when the times right that i like him abit more then a friend is that ok?

[funkymoped]

:-)

[rugeleyboy]

i am very insensitive so you probably wont take my advice, but isnt it best if you sat down and asked him?

ask him if he could ever imagine a relationship between the 2 of you?

i dont know if you read the thread on platonic frienships the other day but, in my opinion there is no such thing so he probably is gagging for ya?

if he's such a good friend you can talk about anything,am i right?

[lil_jenny]

ha yes.. gagging for it.. i do hope not. hmmm thats good thanks for a the answer wooo im all happy again now

[treacle84]

Personally I'm with funkymoped on this one. Try to get him on your own and use your women's intuition to see if he is sending you any signals. You can usually tell if someone is interested in you romantically so just look out. If he is then great, you might as well go for it but if not then I wouldn't say anything. Hope this helps!

Get that radar switched on!