Am I Being Too Sensitive?

[Stephaniyah90]

Okay, so I have been dating this guy for about a month and a half & we've been getting along fine. Bt the other day, he suddenly went off for no reason for like, 15 mins, calling me a bitch and stuff-during and after a hook-up session! Later, he tried reasoning w/me by saying that's just how he talks & he's called other girls that. On top of that, he kept hinting about breaking up and said maybe I'm too young for him-I don't want to state our ages. A few hrs. later, I could have sworn he mumbled he loved me bt how is that love??? Anyways, I stopped talking to him & he gave up trying to calm me down. Just a few days earlier, I asked him not to hurt me & he agreed bt now he does this? My question is, am I wrong or is he wrong?

[lady-janine]

sqad - your tongue must be so far into your check it is coming out the other side!

but I still love you.

[Sqad]

"" we did things other than penetration""

That seems like sex to me.

[ummmm]

Having a fumble is not having sex.

[Sqad]

That's what Bill Clinton said about his affair with Monica.
If you believe that, then you will believe anything.

[ummmm]

Really? You're talking about being 'roughed up' when they haven't got so far as penetrative sex.

[WELSHYORKIE]

He did not have sex with that woman, Sqad - know what I'm sayin' dude? Y'all have a nice day now

[2sp_]

Sqad, I think she didn't like it, that's the problem.

Mr P is quite a macho man, but never in his life has he called me a bitch before, during or after any kind of session.

(He sure as eggs wouldn't do it a second time anyway!)

[kvalidir]

'My bitch' is certainly not the same as simply ' bitch' - it's common street talk some people use for their girlfriend. It wouldn't appeal to me personally but it's not an unusual thing to hear.

[ummmm]

Common street talk. really?

[kvalidir]

Yeah it's a gangsta rap thing, sounds ridiculous when English people do it but they do anyway and it's pretty common in some cultures in the US. Personally if someone starts speaking 'street' I usually write them off as a prat- and I think the OP probably should too:)

[Sqad]

ummmm....clearly all your requirements are packaged in routine, "bog standard" common or garden sex.
That is fine......many , in fact most women would agree with you, however some women's requirements are, shall we say, more sophisticated and conversely the same for men.

[ummmm]

Sqad...you know nothing about my preferences so don't try and guess at it!

They haven't had full sex. If they haven't got that far then it's unlikely they are talking about their fantasies...

[Sqad]

ummmm...RIGHT!

[ChillDoubt]

"" we did things other than penetration""

That seems like sex to me. Sqad.
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Me too.


Having a fumble is not having sex. ummmm
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Damn. That must mean I've never had sex behind the cricket pavilion, in an Army Land Rover nor in the Sgt's Mess female toilet in RAF Cosford.

[anneasquith]

you are some ones ' bitch'' ................yah gods :(

[DaisyNonna]

Just get rid. You don't like what he says, he tries to reason with you? He won't change, you'll just feel bad again and again.

[ummmm]

Chill...did you read Sqad's answer?

[ChillDoubt]

Yes ummmm. Sqad gave more than one though but I chose the singular one that was relevant to my post, that's why I used it.

It sounds to me like they've had sex, but not sexual intercourse.

[viv38]

Sounds like that to me too.

[jackthehat]

They've had Sexual Contact, not Sexual Intercourse; and when most people talk about 'having sex' they mean the latter.

In the same situation, I think I'd kick him to the kerb (or curb, in USA-speak) and look around for someone giving less confusing signals.