What To Write On Birthday Card After Bereavement

[rosyposy]

Any suggestions please for something suitable after the very sudden death of my friends husband a few weeks ago, I got a very nice 'plain' card but am stumped as to what to put on it. -rosy

[grasscarp]

Thinking of you at this very difficult time. All my love etc

[albaqwerty]

It was my mum's birthday shortly after my dad's funeral. Can't remember what I wrote in her card.

How about something along the lines of

'Just thinking of you'

Better suggestions will have been submitted or will arrive.

[joggerjayne]

What a sad and difficult time to have a birthday. My thought are with you. Love and best wishes ...

[Tilly2]

I know you won't be celebrating your birthday this year but I wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you.

[atalanta]

Just send your love as usual, and add a note separately
"Always remembering Fred"

[maggiebee]

Like what Tilly said. Perfect.

[joggerjayne]

Tilly ... excellent ^^

[elliemay1]

I vote Tilly for BA.

[bookbinder]

I wish you a peaceful birthday.

[pixie373]

She might want to try though...don't make her feel guilty if she's planned something. I'd go with grasscarp. I guess you've sent a sympathy card separately, so something short and sweet.

[Georgiesmum]

I usually put"So sorry to hear your very sad news,Just a card to say im thinking of you at at this very sad time" Love from.......

[mikey4444]

I would just say something like ...Happy Birthday, at this very sad time for you"

[naomi24]

I'd buy a nice card with no words and write 'With love', followed by my name. Sometimes the less said the better. She'll know what you're thinking.

[Baldric]

Great answer Naomi,

[rosyposy]

Thank you for all your replies, they were all very helpful, in the end I went for Tilly's suggestion (sort of) and have written ' I know you won't feel like celebrating your birthday this year but wanted you to know I am thinking about you, and hope you have an enjoyable day whatever you do' but all great answers,
thanks again -rosy

[jeffa]

Tilly's suggestion is good, but I'd personally go with Noami. No need to mention anything about it being a "sad time" - she's feeling sad enough already that this is her first birthday without her husband - the last thing she needs is to be reminded of it.

[gness]

I like Tilly's answer....MrG always made a fuss on my birthday....'cept the one he forgot! I appreciated the sentiments in the birthday cards sent to me a few weeks after his death.....and also the little notes and cards when his next birthday came around....MrG shared his birthday with his father and son so it couldn't be a "just to be got through" day and people were very thoughtful of this...x

[ducksie]

When we have a bereavement we don't send, accept or expect greeting cards within the first year - a phone call or calling for a cuppa speaks volumes. A card can be recycled or not looked at no matter how well meant it was sent. If it was me, I'd just turn up with a bottle of wne or something and just et them know I was there for them