relationships

[dmaxxx]

ive been with a girl a year now,she says its over,but two days ago she mailed me saying she wanted to come round and have sex,then she says its only me she ever loved and that its hurting her big time,think shes playing me because now she doesnt want to know,why? and how long does it take to get over someone who u love? i dont understand woman,i gave her everything,she says she wanted my baby up untill 2 days ago,is she playing with my feelings?maybe letting me down gently?maybe having a good time with someone else? shes allways cheated on previous guys...help please

[whiskeysheri]

It's probably not what you want to hear, but I think she's just using you. By the sounds of it she wants to 'have her cake and eat it', so to speak.

If I were you, I wouldn't give her the chance. Tell her to make a decision and stick to it, stop playing with your feelings.

Apparently it takes half the time you go out with someone, to get over them (that's probably rubbish!).

Good luck dmaxxx, and take care xx

[electricblue]

Yes she's working you dmaxxx,this girl seems to want the attention,and needs to know that she's being chased,its all a game,while you're playing her game you are missing out on your life and the possible love thats out there somewhere waiting for you,you deserve much much more,i know it hurts i've been there,but i've also come out the other side,i wish i could have given myself the same advice back then too.

[aggiela]

hiay dmaxxx, sorry to hear of your problem. I have a friend who cannot split from an ex till she is securly in a new relationship, which takes time and in that time she keeps the ex stringing along. I think the same is happening with you and i am sorry cause you did nothing wrong. shes the one with the insecurity issues. You'll get over her as soon as you can call her for what she is ( it took me a year with my ex)

[kazminx]

my niece did this too, it was a case of i dont want you but i dont want anyone else to have you either. she didnt want the commitment but did want someone there for her...for sex and other things..please give it time...she also took about a year and is still having fits 'caus he is seeing someone...its a bereavement process..good luck mate!

[Jennykins]

See the situation as it is... Your a nice guy.. and your being played... dont be her boody, money and "Im board" call..

See your self worth... be a man..

JEN

[WendyS]

Maybe I'm an old cynic, but did she only want sex with you because she's been having a sexual relationship with somebody else, has got herself pregnant, and wants to name you as the father? This sounds just a bit too conniving for me to feel comfortable about.

If you say she's always cheated on previous guys, try and have the courage to walk away now before she damages the rest of your life. It will be painful, but not half so painful as settling down with her and then finding she' cheated on you yet again (and possibly left you with a child to support financially for the remainder of your life.)