What do men WANT?!

[Scarlett]

I am confused. Having been single for a very long time indeed, I have realised that I just don't know what men look for or what attracts them. Please tell! Is it really waps out/eyelash fluttering that gets you noticed??!

[mattoc66]

sorry to hear that uve been single for so long :( im sure there's a guy out there for you somewhere

I think basically you just have to be yourself, have a good sense of humour, personality and confidence within yourself...

good luck and i hope you find the right guy soon :o)

[rugeleyboy]

when i was single and on the pull, i would meet girls and go on dates!!

there were girls who were just to full on, not my liking! there were others who were reserved,not my liking! then i met the present mrs rugeley boy, who didnt fall for my bull sh*t, doubted everything i said, it took me over 2 weeks before she would kiss me!! but my god it was worth it!!

the moral of the story is............. be yourself, and when your ideal match comes along, you will get him!!!

[justforthis]

Can't agree more scarlett, just be yourself.

Nothing worse than someone trying to be someone they are not. Also, hope this doesn't confuse but I'm not a fan "full on" women. Just my preference I guess. Confident, funny, touch of independance yes but centre of attention, "one of the boys", no.

Hope that helps

[Zorr0]

Scarlett..the ones who charm you are after you body ...nothing else....the ones who are less charming and more sincere are after you.

[rugeleyboy]

ahh, Zorro, your nice when you want to be aint ya!!

i dont see you post answers like that in sport!!

[Zorr0]

Rugley...i think I may be in with Scarlett...thats why Im being nice !!

[sense4all]

On a flippant note I would say once the waps(baps) are out there would be little point fluttering your eyelashes even my, less than generously endowed, teenager (18) sports a t shirt that says my face is up here written in an arrow pointing upwards. On a more serious note ,you better pucker up, you will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a Prince! My daughter tells me it can be a bit grim out there ... last week some thirty something blokes latched on to her and her friends and she had to get the bouncers to have a word..... outrageous!

[rugeleyboy]

well she was fit tho!!!!!

ps....... dont tell my wife!!!!!!

[Zorr0]

Scarlett ...u stick with me...all the rest are b*stards

[sense4all]

Sorry Scarlett: Rugeley I love you hugeley. I am more bothered about her bringing home a "bog boy" when she goes to visit her Granny in Leitrim.Ireland.LOL.

[alijangra]

Waps out will attract the wrong guys for the wrong reasons. It is possible to dress sexy but classy, choose styles that suit your shape and accentuate your best features. Dont be a fashion victim or clone. Dont you think loads of girls look the same? Be individual, have something interesting to say and be confident. My partner works away from home and when he is away I go out with the girls(usually twice per month). I seem to get asked for my number much more than my friends, but I wouldnt say Im more physically attractive I just dont see every nice looking guy as a potential mate. I dont feel the need to do the eyelash fluttering and pouting that my single friends do so Im assuming their behaviour must be putting guys off??

[rugeleyboy]

on a male side..................

i am 35, i look it, you wont see me in the freemans catalogue.......... not a minger tho!!

anyway, i went out with my mates and our wives/partners the other week and i got chatted up, by a really good looking girl!! i said "am i the �5 bet for the night (pull a ugly)" but she said she liked my confidence???

dont worry, the wife thought it was hilarious and she wont let me live it down!!!

[WendyS]

Scarlett, I would think the average sensible and sensitive man would be looking for a caring, considerate woman with a good sense of humour and with whom he has several interests in common. When I look around at most of the happy couples I know, few of them would make the Celebrity magazines in terms of physical appearance yet all of them seem to have the kind of personality which is engaging and pleasant to be with. I suspect that as individuals get older and learn from earlier unpleasant past experiences in relationships they become more discriminating in the kind of personality traits they look for. Younger men often look for sexual attractiveness but find it gradually wanting when some of the other attributes are lacking. I also suspect that some men these days don't quite know how to cope with the self-confidence and independence which women possess. Having been bought up to believe they were the "superior sex" in the past,they possibly feel emaciated when meeting new women who are confident and in charge of their lives. I guess the only ploy here is to let the man take the lead at first until you know he's confident enough to accept you as you are.