Care Homes Offered, To Far For Family.......

[trt]

to visit.

My friend told me last night that her father, who has been in hospital with Dementia for the past 3 weeks, would not be able to return home, as his behaviour could be dangerous to his ageing wife and himself.

The problem is, the Social Service have told her that the care homes locally are all full, and have suggested two homes that would be a 3+hour round trip, and as she works full-time as a carer, and also has to do chores for her mother, it would be unlikely she and her mother would be able to visit regularly.

I have suggested to her, to contact our local MP, any other suggestions what her next step could be?

[bednobs]

i think she will have to accept it. I fail to see what the MP could do - magic a care home up? force the hospital to keep him, even though he doesn't need hospital care, blocking the bed for someone else who does? Perhaps the MP could go round to the care home of choice and apply a pillow to someone's face so that a vacancy could appear?

situations in care homes can change on a daily basis, and something might come up, or as an alternative, go to the one further away with a view to moving when local provision is better.

[bednobs]

or i suppose the other plan would be for him to come and live with her?

[ubasses]

I have heard of Social Services placing people in Homes some distance away when they cannot find anything cheap enough locally. I don't know how true it is. A quick phone call to a few homes of your friend's choice to establish whether there are any vacancies for non self funding residents might give them a better idea.
Could try using the Human Rights Act.

Article 8: Right to respect for private and family life,
home and correspondence
This right might be affected if:
• The person you care for is disabled and support staff do not consult or
communicate with them appropriately.
• You are not properly consulted when decisions are being made about their
care. This might result in decisions being made that do not properly respect
their rights, for example if they are moved into residential care away from you
or their family.
• If they are treated poorly by paid support staff or in respite care, e.g. are
washed or dressed without regard to their dignity
• If the person you care for is very isolated because they do not have the
opportunity to have meaningful contact with other people in the community

[bednobs]

the problem is, if there ARE elf-funding beds available, could they self fund?

[ubasses]

I said NON self funding Bednobs. I am a bit out of touch as my Mum has been in 8 years and I have not had to look at rules lately but I know her place has to maintain a set number of rooms for Social service funded residents.

[bednobs]

sorry, i didn't realise, and mis-read what you had said

[ubasses]

No problem Bednobs, done it myself.

[trt]

## or i suppose the other plan would be for him to come and live with her? ##

Not possible as he needs watching 24 hours a day, and keeps disappearing,

Good idea about phoning around ubasses, thanks.
Much better than a pillow over some poor souls face!!!!!

[harrylggy]

It is very good decision that you have made for your friend. Every friend will be helpful as like you. Hope you all the best to carry on this responsibility.