Passive/aggressive Person

[jennyjoan]

Would somebody tell what examples of that one would be of above.

So that I can make my mind about somebody. Thanks. All donations very greateful. jjConnemmary. Thanks

[ummmm]

I did it with my sister and it was like a weight lifted from my shoulders. Never again do I have to listen to her veiled insults.

Considering we grew up very close and our kids are more like siblings than cousins, I always thought I'd want her in my life. Then one night we had an argument and stopped talking....and I've been much more chilled ever since.

Life really is too short to surround yourself with negative people.

[woofgang]

that's not passive aggression, thats someone who is messing with your head.
controlling behaviour
http://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Controlling-Person

[Caran]

I had a friend who was just like my sister. We spoke on the phone everyday. I realised she was always putting me down. Why do you read that newspaper. Oh you didn't watch that on tv. Oh you use that type of pencil. It got to the stage of explosion. She was a magistrate and thought she was above anyone. I said to her you think you are so much better than anyone else. She said to me,I associate with people who are far superior to you, you and everyone you know have not got a scrap of intelligence between you. So I said this friendship is over and I hung up. I still miss her after 6 years but I couldn't forgive what she said. She said a lot more I can't remember. We had 35 years of friendship but!!!

[Mamyalynne]

Caran , you did right - no one needs folk like that in their lives.

[Caran]

Mamya I know I am right but my daughter is still in touch with her. She tells me she has had a lot of mini strokes, is down to 6 stone. Can hardly speak. I think I must be really hard hearted, I don't want her back in my life, I miss her terribly but I don't want the aggro I went thro each day. Am I wrong?

[Mamyalynne]

Well, you weren't wrong to do as you did - but I can understand if you might want to patch things up if she's so low. That is your call Caran and not an easy one.

[Caran]

I don't think it would serve me well to reopen things. I feel I would be subjected to feeling lower to her life style not as it is now but how it was. I do miss her terribly but I don't need the aggro so at the moment I won't be going there.

[jno]

nothing wrong with being self-protective, Caran, it's what we've been doing since the days of running away from sabre-tooth tigers. You can probably feel sorry for her without actually wanting to go through it all again. I expect the superior people she hangs out with will be visiting her all the time anyway, and you wouldn't get a word in.

[Caran]

Jno thank you for that.

[Mamyalynne]

You're right - leave it and mark it as a past chapter.

[Caran]

Thank you Mamya and jno I will leave it and put it away.

[pusskin]

I,be been in a much similar postion! Just brush the feeling aside and carry on trying to be happy in your life. Peope can drag you down. strive to carry on feeling happy JJ Xavier

[pusskin]

Whoops. Where does the aviar come from?

[Mamyalynne]

Divine intervention?

[pusskin]

Haha many!

[pusskin]

* mamy* lol

[jennyjoan]

I know Frognog reply was axed out - saying that I should look at myself in the mirror and there lies the answer he/she was right but tho I can come across in different manners here etc i am the passivist this time ie passive that is.

God bless you all tonight and have a good 2015.