Married ...with Feelings For Someone Else...
This is very difficult for me to write, as somehow writing this out loud, makes it now much more real.
I am married of 5 years, with a 2.5 year old little girl. I am 36 years old, though not sure if thats relevent or not in this scenario.
My husband and I have a pretty good marriage, we have the usual arguments as every other couple I would imagine, and I would be lying if I said things hadnt been more stressfull since the arrival of the little one!
But all in all a good marriage..
However, over the last few weeks I have been developed feelings...quite strong emotional feelings for someone else I recently met.
I hadnt gone looking for someone else, and its not a physical attraction that drew me to him, but he has been working at our house on some building projects and over the weeks, we have chatted about all sorts, and i suddenly realised my feelings for him, run deeper than that of just friends.
The feelings have become so strong, I honestly feel we are soul mates, we connect on some many things and it got me thinking how little my husband and i have in common afterall.
This man I met, has also now told me he has feelings for me, and we both have a very stong connection, and I am, I have to confess, totally in love with him, and he with me...
As I say, initially it wasnt anything physical that attracted me to him, it was completely his soul and our connection at that level. Nothing has happened between us, and it wouldnt, as he is also married too, and also has 2 children (teenagers)
We both believe we should be together, and i guess in this question, there are actually many:
If I am married, can you love someone else? Can you love 2 people at the same time? Or are there different types of love?
Or the fact I am having feelings for someone else, ( anyone else for that matter) does that mean i shouldnt be married...?
The feelings i have are so strong, I am thinking of leaving my husband, and that alone is a huge thing to contemplate, especially having my little girl.
Is any challenge so great it cant be done or has anyone else had a similar experience and things worked out ok?
I just believe life is too short and something is telling me to follow my heart...
I just feel something is drawing us together, and every waking thought is on this person...and every second I want to be with him.
Work finishes on our home shortly which means he wont be around every day, but even before we admitted feelings for each other, we already had become good friends. So in the coming week we will see each other, just not every day, and I honestly dont know how I will get through each day not seeing him...this feels like love to me.
I thought i loved my husband, but now experiencing these feelings which are so totally overwhelming, i question now what me and my husband have...
I cant speak to my friends about this,as they are also close friends with my husband,and I would not want to put them in a difficult position. I could talk to my mum, but again she is close to my husband and I wouldnt want her acting differently around him or me. So AB'ers, over to you, I feel you all may be able to give me your honest and real life experience answers which I would really be very grateful for right now...thank you.