Feeling guilty...

[Jamba99]

I cheated on my boyfriend at the weekend. It was only a kiss but I feel horrible. I think it is unnecessary to tell him because it will cause more problems than it is worth...I just feel really bad.

[4getmenot]

Whats the question? How can we help? :-)

[Scarlett]

These things happen. Forget it. Were you drunk? We all do things we regret. Don't waste any more time thinking about it.

[helliebobs]

I'd forget it as well, unless you were planning on taking it further.

[Jamba99]

Sorry not really a question just help on feeling better....people in the same boat. Yes I was absolutely drunk so thank you scarlett that was the kind of thing I was hoping for! I have done this to previous boyfriends before though and promised myself it would never happen again. I have been with this guy for a year and a half now and can't believe I have let myself, and him, down. Although I know it meant absolutley nothing I would be devastated if I found out he did that.

[TopCat1]

Is it a serious relationship? I think you should own up, there would be nothing worse than it getting back to him via someone else.

At least if you tell him what happened and how you feel about it, you'd stand a chance. but if he was to hear about it from someone else, then i think he would find it harder to forgive you.

[kazzianne]

I wouldnt worry about it - put it down to a silly mistakeand tell yourself never to do it again!!

[jake-the-peg]

We all have images of ourelves, sometimes we see ourselves as fatter, less attractive etc. than we aremore often we see ourselves as taller, slimmer, cleverer and critically more virtuous than we are.

It hurts when we suddenly get confronted with reality and discover that we didn't live up to our self image.

Think of it as an oppurtunity to learn that we all make mistakes and the only real crime is not to learn from them

[Champagne]

So long as it's a one-off then don't beat yourself up about it. x

[bex401]

I know it's hard but try not to dwell on it too much,put it down to experience,we're only human after all.

Good Luck!!

[Jamba99]

Thank you guys. There is no way of it getting back to him as no-one else knows about it and we don't live in the same town so he would never find out. Thanks for the answers, its what I have been trying to tell myself but just helps when it comes from others.

[4getmenot]

If its quite a serious relationship then you should tell him and I'm sure he would understand. As you said you wouldnt like it if he did it to you. Whenever I've done it I've felt so bad I've come clean. I am so bad at lying that he would be able to tell I'd done something wrong anyway.

[funkymoped]

if you cant do the time, dont do he crime !

[Rubyrose]

Treat him how you wish to be treated. I think the only thing you can do is see it the other way round. If he had gone out and kissed someone else... would you want him to tell you? or forget it? Honestly!

I'd have to tell if I was you. I'm to honest, not to. I think that if you dont confess then in your mind you will know you got away with it and whats to stop you doing it again? My mate did the same and cheated on her bf and felt bad the next day and decided not to tell him.. turns out some of his mates saw her and had already informed him.

[dancealot13]

Jamba99- Do NOT tell him. Things happen, you feel guilty, it won't happen again,.....
What he doesnt know can't hurt him. Don't tell him because it's no big deal.

If my boyfriend kissed another girl,( which Im sure he has at some point) and it broke his heart and he felt terribly guilty...I would still not want to know about it. So he got drunk and kissed another girl, big deal. I know he would feel like a jerk the next day and that's enough for me. But I wouldn't want to hear it from him, and I wouldn't want to know how it happened, because then I would analyze the whole kiss and it would drive me mad. A kiss is a kiss, no big deal.