My friend....

pussnboots | 21:40 Mon 26th Sep 2011 | Pets

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had to have her Yorkie ( 17 yo ) put to sleep on Sarurday, she is inconsolable, she doesn't know about Rainbow Bridge, she doesn't have a computer. I would like to print out the Rainbow Bridge poem to give to her but I'm worried that it will upset her more.....should I... or not.

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nungate

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marval

I am sorry to hear of your friend's loss. I would print it off, and then you can ask her if she would like to read it. I have heard it gives people comfort.

Buenchico

Buy a nice card. Write something nice in it. Fold the poem inside the card. Deliver it with a nice bottle of wine.

marval

Very good advice Chris.

nungate

I don't know the poem but I know the story. When our pets die they go to a place called the Rainbow Bridge where they wait for us to join them, in that place they have no pain, everything they need to eat safe open places for them to play. We lost our beloved cat a few weeks ago and we told him to wait for us there and we'll be along to see him soon - time has no relevance there. I first found out about the Rainbow Bridge in a stitching magazine sadly I can't recall which one but it I find it I shall post the relevant part here. The Rainbow Bridge story has brought us some comfort.
Our pets always leave paw prints in our hearts. I know exactly how she feels as I still feel his loss, though I do have his ashes nearby which for some strange reason is a bit of a comfort.

mrs.chappie

Hiya Puss. Sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I think that most of the regular peeps on AB have been in that horrible place before. :o(

She might gain some comfort from the poem, but personally, reading that sort of thing only makes me worse. It's good that you're there for her, that will be a comfort to her.

JonnyBoy12

So sorry to hear that. It is just like losing one of the family when you lose a pet. I lost my pet cat last year after 16 year in our family.

marval

This is he poem.

http://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

nungate

Thank you Marval for the address to the Rainbow Bridge site

marval

You are welcome, it does seem to give some people comfort.

welshlibranr

personally reading the poem only upset me even more, however it helped me so much when trying to explain to my little grandsons where Ollie was, they asked so often, and were only 3 and 4 years old at the time...so yes it was helpful!....

pussnboots

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MY friend Jill has buried Holly in her garden and made a little shrine so I thought I would but a little posey of flowers and leave it with a copy of the poem with the flowers. Seems to me that nothing much will help Jill at the moment, I have talked to her about the usual stuff, like time will heal etc, Holly had a good life and loved to bits. I just wanted to make a last bit of comfort for my friend.

welshlibranr

good idea puss, when I lost Ollie I was devastated, then a good friend of ours just arrived on the doorstep with a lovely bunch of flowers, and just there to provide company and listen, and console me!........will be ever grateful to him for that!.........he helped so much, so go ahead!........

nungate

Encourage her to talk about her Yorkie, reminisce about funny things she did, her little habits. Yorkies are real characters, my mum had one, so your friend should have lots to talk about, and just listen. The Pet undertaker who came and collected our pet sat for a while and let us tell stories about our Jess and it did help. Just let her talk, be there that's all you can do.

pussnboots

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I know like all you good people know that Jill will get over her loss in time, but for her it is very raw at the moment, she has very red swollen eyes and is crying all day. She now has this guilty stuff going on..like.. "I should have done more for Holly" perhaps if I'd done this or that sort of thing, Anyway thanks for all your replies, I am going to put some flowers and the poem on Hollys grave tomorrow and wipe away Jills tears again. x x

lankeela

My fifteen year old Heeler Woolly Bear died this morning. He had a wonderful life and was a happy little chap right to the end. I dropped him off at the vets tonight to be cremated but I won't be collecting the ashes, as I believe that once they have gone, that is it. I certainly won't be reading any poems but I can understand if they give comfort to some people. I would rather celebrate his life and smile when I remember the good times.