jealousy

[juju74]

i want to get over my jealousy of my future husbands ex?they were engaged and had slpit up a few years before we go together. she was still very much in contact with my partner and was very interested in the fact that we had got together. i had a joint birthday party with a mutual friend wich she invited herself to . although my partner ensures me this is not true she likes to let people think she broke my partenrs heart. i dont know why i'm jealouse of her ,my parter ensures me that what we have is far more speacial and if i do say so myself i'm more atractive than her . any ideas on how to overcome this jealousy?

[4getmenot]

I dont think you can really overcome jelousy. its like a phobia I spose it will always be there the only think you can do are things to help it. Like basically thinking to yourself he's not with her he's with you and you are the one he wants and is going to marry. Your partner has assured you aswell believe me there are plenty of jelous women out there that don�t even get assurance and the bloke loves the attention. So thinking about both these things just try and put it in the back of your mind. xx

[andy-hughes]

Jealousy is always hard to deal with because it's the result of insecurity - and this woman is playing on your insecurity because it feeds her own insecurity and calms her own jealousy.

This feeling will lessen with time - every day you spend with your husband is another day when he is with you, not her.

She will probably try to push your buttons because she knows she can, so rob her of that power. Always be nice if you see her, smile, and ask her how she is. Never mention your husband inless she does, in which case smile brightly, and say how happy you are, but don;t overdo it - she'll see you overcompensating, and take victory from it.

If anyone tells you that she broke your husband's heart, say "Maybe, but I certainly mended it for him, and he says it's better than ever now ....." and you can be sure that message will filter back to her.

Remember, smile if it kills you - it will kill her more, and hopefully this manipulative insecure woman will move out of your social orbit and allow you to be happy with the man you love, and make happy - when she couldn't.