Am Mentally Not Good

[JinnyJoan]

am finding it great difficulty in trying to see sister in hospital on a daily basis initially when in different hospitals etc but this past week am trying to see her on an every day basis the hospital is at the other side of me and it is difficult from me to travel.

even my friend who visited her on Friday said that the dinner came into her to room and she didn't try to you know raise her self to eat this is after 6 weeks lying down

she is on eating only 4 rounds of toast per day ( she did say the food is great but she can not eat it)  the diatician has been round to her asking why she is not eating and she said they food is but she just can't eat and so in 5 or 6 weeks she has lost 2 stone.

also - no TV, radio no ipad (told old for that ) - I told her she was getting no stipulation and she eventually will get sicker  and the thing is upsets me when you go in she lying if she is sleeping with her mouth wide open up and staring the ceiling - there is nothing (nothing to the with the staff) she can do.  I am looking back in the past  (in the earlier day)  lady who suffers from OCD to this, keeps herself in immaculate condition and now this to this.

 

she just a person who won't do what she is told eating walking and etc.  

physio meeting me on Tuesday to make an appointment to to assess her house and get aids (like he sorta meants a couple of rails ) hello - Jesus it will mean more than a few rails and she she also has to negotiate inside the 22 stair (that's never going to happen)  and whilst the lad physio lives near to her house he cannot get over (whenever he eventually gets in) how large they are.

 

Even thou she is extremely composis mentis - I just see herever home in some care care - and she will break her heart.

Thanks for listening to me

 

 

 

[barry1010]

I feel for you, JJ.  It is distressing to see a loved one in this way.

Try to keep optimistic.  You are doing everything you can for your lovely sister; be sure to look after yourself, too.

[david small]

It sounds like she has given up on living. She may want to move on. This very same happened to my mother.

Your sister has all her mental faculties you say. Baring depression or pharmaceutical influence, she may have decided that it was her time to depart this world for the next. Her choice.

[barry1010]

JJ, don't dismiss the idea of your sister returning to her own home.

You will be surprised at the adaptions that can make all the difference. You say it is a big house so it is possible to put a bedroom and bathroom downstairs or a stair lift.

I have seen lifts and ramps outside houses to help disabled people get in and out of their homes safely.

I'm sure she will feel much better when she is in her own home.

If that really is not possible your sister might be moved in to a sheltered flat so she can be e independent or a residential home that suits her, with activities and more interaction.

Try to be positive