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Chapz i really want to end this thread now, it wasn't a wind up i have been very stressed over the whole thing, but like i said i want to stay anonymous so can we say ages aren't necessarily true, sorry you may think that's shady but i'm not someone who likes to spill out my guts to strangers in real life, i used the forum the last few days as i've been very down due to circumstances, thankfully i'm contrary to your suggestions quite mature for my age, but am not a perfect human being & make mistakes, i can be tempestuous & impulsive in my personal life & i can bite if i think somebody is unfairly attacking me, re reading my posts they were a bit all over the place & obviously out of context but i just wanted some anonymous human contact at the time, i wish you all luck & now i've found answerbank again i may keep using it. Please remember there is a person behind the screen & words can hurt maybe i'm overacting as i did put myself out there when i spilled my guts on this post. Without sounding a pretentious arse we certainly don't need biology books it was just a mistake, sex is often unplanned, i couldn't believe his reaction at the time but due to circumstances i can't go into it would be bad for him to have a child outside of marriage due to his cultural background hence i now realise the reaction. Wish you all the best in whatever you do & please can i just put this issue to bed now