Possible pregnancy boyfriend reacting in a bad way

[bambiboo78]

Been with my bf for 3 years now (known him much longer), early this month we had unprotected sex..he was completely aware I was no longer taking any form of contraception & used the pull out method despite me telling him to use a condom, now my period is almost 7 days late, he has reacted in a very immature way accusing me of being a selfish bitch, telling me I will have a termination if i am pregnant. He is usually so caring, mature & sensitive, we both have our own places are in our early 30s & neither of us have any children yet, not sure what is wrong with him, if i am pregnant i will 100% be keeping it but i cannot believe he is being so selfish, everyday he is texting me telling me to get a test & asking why i'm not bleeding yet, he's refusing rational conversation, we aren't talking for this reason at the moment. I'm in shock we were absolutely fine until i missed my period & since then he has been irrational, childish & mad!!! Know he loves me & he loves kids so what has gotten him???

[Mamyalynne]

A) You omitted to tell him you weren't taking contraception any longer.
B) You asked him to use a condom but despite him declining you went ahead.
C) He is not ready for children.

[Mamyalynne]

apologies, misread point one.

[bambiboo78]

No you need to read my post properly love, he WAS completely aware i was no longer on contraception i told him i came off the implant two months ago infact he was with me when i went for the appointment, i told him to use a condom but he refused.. i AM ready for kids he knew this but took the risk!!!

[bambiboo78]

No problems.. of course if i hadn't told him i could completely understand it but he was well aware

[Mamyalynne]

Sincere apologies for missing that.

[tinkerbell23]

Hes probobly in shock and freaking out.... I would be too i think and hea acting irrationally.... Give him time. If i were you id be at 24h shop for a test though... Dont prolong it....

Hope you get the answer u r after xxx

[swan_purple]

Maybe he is shocked by it all and not sure how to react in the situation? Maybe he isn't ready himself to be a parent yet so the thought of a possible pregnancy could be extremely stressful to him even if he does love other people's kids.

Saying that, he should support you as it is an unexpected situation for you too and you both need to sit down and talk about it rationally together if he calms down after a while. Possibly give him a little space to get his head together?

I can deffinitely see where you are coming from though, I would feel a little hurt as it does take two to tango!!

I hope it is a little easier for you soon.

[Mamyalynne]

He does sound rather scared by the whole thing, had you two ever discussed the possibility of starting a family??

[bambiboo78]

Yes giving him the benefit of the doubt cos think he is in shock, but like i say he did knowingly take the risk..i even told him it was most fertile few days.. gonna give him some space.. have a little feeling it maybe the not knowing for sure that is bugging him. No worries mamyalynn you read it wrong. Thanks for your quick responses guys, space & a definite result i think, gonna try & sleep now x

[swan_purple]

Get a test and good luck! xoxo

[Mamyalynne]

Thank you for understanding my mistake, take some time and I hope and pray all turns out well for you, night night ♥.

[bambiboo78]

Yes we've discussed starting a family we both want kids but he isn't ready yet & i am, but i have been nothing but honest with him all along, would never try & trap him but now he's accusing me of doing just that despite telling him it was my fertile week, him knowing i was on no contraception, i mean he even insisted on the pull out & wouldn't wear a condom, what can u do?!!! he knows i want children & there's no way i would abort, feel like he's just wanting a reaction at the minute & is confused & i think underneath a bit excited

[bambiboo78]

Night night xxx

[Brinjal]

He must also be aware that early thirtys for you is not the same as early thirtys for. Tick tock of the clock and all so if you're to have children togetherhewill have to come to a decision asto when he is ready for children. You can't wait forever.

[lilacben]

Good morning bambi.......I hope you managed to get some sleep last night. If I was you I would do a test.at least you will know. Sometimes you can be late through worry. Then if you are pregnant go from there. I hope he changes his mind once he knows but don't count on it. Just in case. Please let us know how you get on and if you are pregnant or not. take care Brenda x

[bambiboo78]

Did a home pregnancy test this morning.. NEGATIVE.. no period yet so i've booked gp appointment for week today that way i can find out for definite if i still have no period, seems unlikely now due to another negative test, it's juts i'm always very regular even when i had my contraceptive implant my periods were still like clockwork which is unsual. He's talking to me now but for some reason still seems convinced i may still be pregnant despite the negative test!!! thanks for the answers will update if by some fluke i am pregnant, but think it maybe false alarm!!

[swan_purple]

Sounds like he is just freaking out over the whole situation. I'm pleased you've booked yourself into the docs. its probably just a very rare blip in your cycle and just coincidently turned up after unprotected sex! xoxo

[tenrec]

Just read this thread, and I am sorry to say I think he needs to man-up. I do hope you get the happy ending you hope for.

[lilacben]

Thankyou for the update bambi, so pleased you took a test. I should think , like I said before, it is just stress that has made you late. But good idea to get it checked out next week. So pleased he is talking to you, as well he should. It takes two to tango. Just wish he would man up to it. You must take care of yourself and have a good talk to this man of yours it isnt fair you have had to be made to feel guilty about it. Keep in touch. take care. Brenda x

[bambiboo78]

CAME ON MY PERIOD THIS AFTERNOON!!! PHEW xxx :)