My Darling Daughter

[mallyh]

my darling daughter has just been told she has cancer of the cervix ,the surgeon is almost sure its stage 1 ,she has loads of test and scans next week to check other organs then the following week has an hysterectomy.the thing is now she knows shes very upbeat its me whose a basket case,ive come on to ab to try and get my thoughts in order ( if you follow me) .i'm very positive when i'm with her but really i want to scream and shout .

[mallyh]

i'm very positive when i'm with her , it's just when i'm by myself xx

[Bbbananas]

I can absolutely understand how you feel Mallyh; having recently had a similar gynaecological diagnosis myself. But stage 1 is good, her prognosis is good and she will be alright.

Screaming and shouting is maybe not necessary, but I can understand why you want to. And it's always harder worrying about a loved one, especially a daughter, than it is worrying about yourself,

Chin up , be positive xxxx

[Bbbananas]

How old is she Mallyh, and does she have children?

[marval]

I am sorry to hear your news mallyh, but it is good that it has been caught early. All you can do is be there for her, and we will be here for you.

[leahbee]

I am so sorry mallyh to hear your news. I can only imagine what you must feel like, you always. wish that you could go through it for your children don't you?

[mallyh]

thankyou again for your support ,she is mid thirties and thankfully has a family xx

[Bbbananas]

It's good she has her children x

I had my total hysterectomy+ exactly a month ago today. If you or your daughter has any questions, I have no objection whatsoever in advising where I can. Xx

[granny grump]

Let it out mallyh I know what you mean you just want to take it all on yourself because that's what we do. Be positive and take your lead from your daughter and laugh a lot I'm happy to listen while you shout. :-) xx

[silliemillie]

My prayers and thoughts are with you. God bless.xx

[DaisyNonna]

Here is a good place to scream and shout. We will listen and accept all the hurt and fear you feel. Sound off here and then you will probably be in a calmer and more positive frame of mind to support your daughter.
Best wishes to all the family. Stay strong together. Thinking of you all.

[mallyh]

thankyou once again for your comments and wishes it means a lot and Bbbananas thankyou so much for your offer at the moment we are well informed it's the test next week thats really worrying .xxx

[Psybbo]

mallyh, I wish your lovely daughter well and glad it's been caught so early. You scream as much as you want here, love and best wishes to you both xx

[excelsior-1]

oh mallyh, all my prayers to you and your daughter

[DTCwordfan]

Ignore Sqad, mallyh; he's an ex-doc, sees things in very scientific terms and doesn't seem to appreciate the emotions running in these things. I would love it if he was my quack if it was a bone condition, break, muscular, protrusions, nerve damage, tendon/ligament damage - however as a reader of depression and mental states, no bloody way.

Sqad is right though in one thing; they have caught it early if it's stage 1 and the prognosis for cure is pretty high; I am not saying that it's 100%, it isn't, but I am sure he could give you the figure - I bet its 90% plus. So that is the good news.

You're only being a mum to break down (when she ain't there) - don't be embarrassed, share with other family members (hopefully?) or on here, but do talk - with us idiots if necessary....this will help you. And if there is no one in your family, then I am sure one of us can step forward and act as an e-buddy - all you need do is say, "yes please" and put up a temporary e-mail address to screen out some of the loons that can be out there.

Hope this helps and we're out there, thinking of you. x

[mallyh]

thankyou too psybbo i do feel a bit calmer now x and excelsior thankyou for commenting (as i know you 've had a rough time too) x

[DaisyNonna]

Good advice DT

[murraymints]

It's really scary when the word cancer is thrown at you.....my dad's been through chemotherapy and radiotherapy for cancer and touch wood seems to have come through it....ab has been a wonderful source of support for me..people are very kind...so come here and rant if it helps...you'll get nothing but positive encouragement.....hopefully your daughter has been caught early enough for a swift course of action and I'm sure her prognosis is good...x

[mallyh]

dtcwordfan you made me smile with your comments and believe me i'm a different person in front of my daughter strong and positive, just crumble when on my own, after next week when they confirm stage 1 i'll be ok (hopefully).xx