am i wrong in doing this?

[kristaljade]

i am wanting to send a letter to my husbands floozy as was, telling her that we are now very happy with a little boy etc. i dont know her new address so will send it to her parents address. i really want them to know what she has done in the past as they think she is an angel, wonderful daughter. if i write urgent on the letter and leave it unsealed im hoping they get to read it. its been hard to move on, my inlaws think my husband is wonderful too, maybe they should find something lying around too when they come and visit us. so basically without defaming the character of his floozy, can his floozy take the letter to the police. i know you will probably say it is wrong what i am doing but i have so much pent up anger in me and i want her parents to know.

[ummmm]

Sounds like your husband is the floozy.

[RATTER15]

It takes two to Tango!!

[ummmm]

And you're obviously not happy now.

[roxie_09]

Is it really worth it? If you're both happy now leave it, move on and forget what's happened in the past. Doing something about it now is just going to bring it all up again and what's the point in that? x

[redcrx]

get rid of the hubby, you sound like you dont want to be happy and settled with him

[B00]

We've had this before!

I'm sure this question was asked about a year or so ago.

In case the question's legit (cough)- leave well alone, you've got your husband back, hopefully he's learned his lesson, why upset the girls parents who've had nothing to do with this?

(I'm almost convinced this has been asked, almost word for word before)

[ummmm]

It has been asked.

[jno]

what B00 said, her parents have nothing to do with it. Leave them alone. Your problem is with your husband

[EvianBaby]

If you decided to forgive your husband for whatever he did and took him back, as you now claim to be happy with a child then why would you want to rock the boat and bring all those bad feelings back out? I don't see how that would help you in the slightest bit.

[redcrx]

a few times.

[PeelerPal]

It seems that you are clearly not happy and although you do have a child now, that is not the basis to form a relationship from something that has already been broken. Your husband has played away and you seem set on blaming the other woman. Personally, I would look closer to home and get rid. If he has done it before, he will do it again regardless of a child. if you try to livwi the thought that you have a child now so everything will be ok, then you and the child will suffer in the long term.

[pink-kittens]

But this woman did nothing wrong?
It was your husband who was attached, not her and you have no idea exactly what he told her about his relationship status
I would lay money on him telling her he was single/separated/going through a divorce and no matter what he says he said, you know he is a cheat and liar and you wont believe him anyway

Leave it, move on with your life and if that's without him (highly recommended) then so be it

[andy-hughes]

You appear to have a lot of residual anger resulting from the hurt you have suffered, and are quite reasonably looking to share some of that out.

This is not the way forward for you - attractive and temporarily satisfying as it may be.

Your husband's ex-relationship's parents are not to blame for what has happened, and it is unfair to cause them upset for the actions of their daughter, although i can see from your perspective that you wish to cause her some direct upset to compensate for the pain she has caused you.

Your way foward is to work on your marriage and see if it can be re-built.

Re-establishing trust will take time and patience, and only time will tell if this will work or not - you say you are happy now, which is a god place to start.

By all means write your letter(s) - just don't pst them, keep them safe for referral when needed, and eventually, when the pain has receeded, you will be glad you acted with dignity, which is always the best way for you.

[tastymorsel]

Here here,Pink_Kittens.From someone who know fro experience.Ditch him and move on,you and your child will benefit so much better in the long run.Been there,

[Quizmonkey]

Grow up. Communicate with them like an adult, or leave it and move on. You're applying adolescent values to an adult situation.

[k8bailey]

write the letter by all means but don't send it - I sometimes find it helpful to put my thoughts and feelings down on paper.

By writting to her, especially involving her parents, you are opening the lines of communication with her and if she replied, would you want to hear what she had to say? would she go directly to you or would she go to you husband?

The best 'revenge' you can have is to build a happy relationship with your husband and child, and forget her!

As for his parents....well I understand where you're coming from, but how would you feel as a parent? How would your husband feel, if you involved his parents? he has hurt you but he also chose you! Your marriage is your bussiness, no-one elses.

I really hope that you can find a way to move on from this.

[B00]

<mutters>

Still say this is a wind up....

[tastymorsel]

*knows from*

[Pinkypie]

I don't think you are wrong in 'wanting' to do this, but it might open a big can of worms and cause unhappiness in your life now!

Although you will feel happy that her name is 'rightfully' muddied. But I think you might drag your husband and you name through it too and end up regretting it!

To in short, don't do it - your revenge is being happy together now!